SUMMARY:
- Each person is
responsible for their own emotions, and it's not your job to make everyone
happy.
- It’s no secret that we
like to be liked. But some people can be seriously dependent on this and forget
about their own thoughts, beliefs, and wishes.
- Confrontations are just a
part of life because it’s how we really get to know each other, expand our
views, and learn to understand other people’s point of view. If you’re afraid
of it, then it means you don’t know how to stand up for yourself or how to
defend your beliefs.
- People who like to please
others tend to end up in unhealthy relationships. They don’t cut off
communication with a friend who always asks them for a favor but never ever
returns it.
- There are people who
apologize even when they’re guilty of nothing. They keep blaming themselves for
basically everything that goes wrong, even if it’s absolutely not in their
power to control or change it.
- You can’t form deep
relationships with people unless you’re willing to speak up when need be and
say that your feelings are hurt. Denying that you’re angry, sad, embarrassed,
or disappointed keeps a relationship superficial.
- You don’t really wanna do
this favor for someone – you’re simply doing it out of obligation. It’s a fear
that if you say no, then it’ll upset the person who’s asked you for help.
- You should take care of
yourself too! It doesn't mean that you have to be selfish. It simply means
knowing when to put your needs first to avoid feeling emotionally and even
sometimes physically drained.
- Never forget that people
treat us the way we let them. Having healthy boundaries means that no one will
take advantage of you anymore.
- People usually look for approval from others
when their sense of self-worth is low, when they think that they have to go out
of their way to be worthy of attention and love.
- You can be generous
without letting others use you. You can be kind without coming across as a
pushover. You can be well-liked without having to do something for someone
first.
[Music]
so it's finally the weekend
and you're
ready to take a
well-deserved rest with
me myself and I but at the
last minute a
friend asks you to help
them with some
super important
presentation they have
to give on Monday you are
exhausted but
you just can't say no well
it's time you
learned because always
being nice isn't
that good at all don't get
me wrong here
being a sweet and caring
person is great
hey there's so few of us
but there are
signs when being too nice
to people is
actually bad for you
one of those signs is that
you feel
responsible for other
people's feelings
let's say a friend shared
some problem
with you without even being
asked you
start thinking about all
the possible
ways to solve it because
deep inside you
feel that you just have to
or maybe you
constantly drop everything
to be
someone's shoulder to cry
on and then do
your best to cheer them up
well that
really does make you a
great friend take
a moment to ask yourself
why do I act
this way if you're honest
then the
answer will probably be
like helping
others and always being
there for
everyone makes me feel
needed and
important and without
worrying about
others all the time I feel
empty and
maybe even useless but each
person is
responsible for their own
emotions and
it's not your job to make
everyone happy
another sign of being a
people pleaser
is when you're always looking
for the
approval of others it's no
secret that
we like to be liked that's
just part of
human nature we strive to
feel included
and appreciated by those
around us but
sometimes this desire turns
into valuing
others opinions much more
than we should
some people can be
seriously dependent
on this and forget about
their own
thoughts beliefs and wishes
they only do
what others expect from
them
are scared to disappoint
their partner
friends family and
coworkers
it's not as if such people
have no
opinion of their own but
the fear of
rejection always stops them
from letting
everybody know it so they
keep quiet
agree with others and just
go along with
what everybody else wants
hoping to get
validation this way let's
move on to
another point which
suggests that you
avoid conflicts at all
costs
well very few people enjoy
arguments in
fighting that sounds pretty
normal right
but confrontations are just
a part of
life because it's how we
really get to
know each other expand our
views and
learn to understand other
people's point
of view
it's all about how you act
when you know
that an argument is about
to start if
you're afraid of it then it
means you
don't know how to stand up
for yourself
or how to defend your
beliefs quite
often hiding away from
conflict means
agreeing with ideas that
you don't
actually support or doing
something you
don't really want to do
ever wondered
why you keep attracting the
wrong people
in your life well that just
might be
another sign that you're
way too nice
people who like to please
others tend to
end up in unhealthy
relationships they
don't cut off communication
with a
friend who always asked
them for a favor
but never returns it they
stay with a
partner who takes them for
granted
they help out a co-worker
who doesn't
respect them and gets work
done at their
expense you see it seems
like nice
people gravitate toward
those who
exploit their kindness
users are great
manipulators and they know
how to get
what they want they usually
play on your
need for approval or play
the victim
making you feel sorry for
them
constantly apologizing is
another red
flag here it's perfectly
fine to say
sorry if you actually did
something bad
or inconvenient somewhat
but there are
people who apologize even
when they're
guilty of nothing they keep
blaming
themselves for basically
everything that
goes wrong even if it's
absolutely not
in their power to control
or change it
they also take
responsibility
the mistakes others make if
this
describes you then you
could have
problems with understanding
what being
nice actually means another
warning sign
of being too nice is when
you hide your
feelings all the time you
can't form
deep relationships with
people unless
you're willing to speak up
when need be
and say that your feelings
are hurt
denying that you're angry
sad
embarrassed or disappointed
keeps a
relationship superficial of
course
admitting your feelings to
others might
be scary because you feel
apprehensive
about the reaction you'll
get in return
but you know people aren't
mind reader's
so it's totally okay to let
them know
how you're feeling
speaking of emotions if you
feel burning
resentment after agreeing
to do
something then it means you
have
problems saying no you
don't really want
to do this favor for
someone you're
simply doing it out of
obligation as for
what's forcing you it's a
fear that if
you say no then it'll upset
the person
who asked you for help and
even though
it's great to be attentive
to others
feelings and try to make
them
comfortable by lending a
helping hand
such people pleasers can
end up feeling
overwhelmed and burned out
pretty
quickly they work late into
the evening
way after their shift ended
because the
boss asked them to help
with something
that's probably not even
their
responsibility the next
morning they're
helping a friend move even
though they
didn't get nearly enough
sleep and that
evening they're babysitting
the
neighbors kids this is just
one example
of how a person's life can
revolve
around the needs and
expectations of
others where did they get
the time and
energy for all that the answer
is pretty
obvious people pleasers
always put aside
their own needs and desires
again I
can't stress enough here
that taking
care of others is awesome
this is what
makes us human but you
should take care
of yourself too it doesn't
mean that you
have to be selfish
it simply means knowing
when to put your
needs first to avoid
feeling emotionally
and even sometimes
physically drained if
taking care of others is
leaving you no
time to take care of
yourself
you've got a major problem
here if after
learning about these signs
you've
realized that you fit into
the category
of people who are too nice
don't stress there are lots
of ways you
can change your situation
for the better
the first thing you should
do is to set
boundaries
never forget that people
treat us the
way we let them having
healthy
boundaries means that no
one will take
advantage of you anymore
start valuing
your time be brave enough
to say no and
don't let others brush off
your emotions
or priorities as if they
don't count now
to do all that you'll need
to remember
the next tip work on your
self-esteem
you are loved valuable and
worthy simply
because you are and not
because of what
you think say do or what
others think of
you people usually look for
approval
from others when their
sense of
self-worth is low when they
think that
they have to go out of
their way to be
worthy of attention and
love also low
self-esteem feeds our fears
and
insecurities but it's time
to change
that do more of those
things that make
you happy indulge and
pamper yourself
and celebrate your every
achievement no
matter how small it might
seem always
dreamed of taking dancing
classes go for
and don't look back the
last thing you
need to remember is to
strike a balance
you can be generous
without letting others use
you you can
be kind without coming
across as a
pushover you can be
well-liked without
having to do something for
someone else
first helping others is a
sign of a
caring person so don't just
give it up
cold turkey butt and this
is really
important you have to set
limits instead
of agreeing to everything
without
thinking start looking for
a compromise
in every situation that
will benefit
both sides you know win-win
your friend
wants to borrow your car
fine but ask them to pick
up your dry
cleaning for you while
they're out and
about in your ride see
win-win so do you
know any other tips that
could help a
person stop being too nice
let everybody
know in the comments below
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