How To Create An Amazing Relationship That Lasts Best Education Page #Online Earning

hello again this is Stefan and I'm

Tatiana and we want to wish you guys a

happy Valentine's Day and welcome to our

Valentine's week video for those of you

that don't yet know this is my beautiful

girlfriend Tatiana she's got an amazing

youtube channel called lux health

yes and this is my warrior King Stefan

and he's from quadric life mastery and

so this is part of her four-part series

of videos for Valentine's Day it's

totally different than any genre we've

ever filmed on either of our channels so

thumbs up the video if you do like this

genre so we know to keep doing these

videos comment below if you want to see

more of us together just give us some

feedback yeah and what we have a

playlist available for this too for this

series of videos this is part 2 of our

video series the first one was on how to

attract the right partner in your life

so if you missed that one you can go

back and we talked about a lot of

different things that if people benefit

you whether you're single or if you

already in are already in a relationship

and today we want to talk about how to

create an amazing relationship that

lasts long term mm-hmm and then our next

video will be about how to create

passion in a relationship because we all

know how important that is and our last

video is going to be how to communicate

better with your partner so how'd it

have that constant dialogue that is

favorable to a healthy relationship so

how do you create an amazing

relationship that lasts you know I know

for me from my experience I've been in

short-term relationships you know single

dating you know this is by far the best

most amazing not only this relationship

but the best part of my life to be

honest with you and I think you know one

thing that I found is that the highest

of highs you can experience from making

a lot of money or achieving success or

getting a fit body or traveling or

whatever it might be the highest of high

did you experience from that is not even

anywhere close to the highest of high

that you can experience with your

partner which number that you love from

whether you're intimate

someone had passion for I think that

this you know a relationship amplifies

your experience of life in so many ways

because in life you want to share you

want to share the experiences of a life

with someone and I don't know about you

but oftentimes when I learn something or

something cool happens or have a big

accomplishment the first thing that you

want to do is you want to share that

with someone that you care about in love

and I know for myself there's moments of

and I did well financially and I made a

lot of money and I had this big win and

victory but I didn't have someone to

share that with I didn't have something

to celebrate that win and so I could

tell being on the side of being single

for many years dating and you know you

know going through that process and now

being on the other side with someone

that I love and care for and has such a

powerful relationship with this Trump

anything else in life and that's why I

think this has to be a high priority in

your life you know and you have to make

sure that you're in a relationship that

you can grow with someone you know

because you're going to invest into the

partner even invest into your

relationship and you're going to make it

lasting I think you know maybe that's

the first tip that I have is that the

relationship that you're in you got it

invest in it you've got to invest the

time the energy just to make it

extraordinary you know it's not going to

happen automatically you have to you

know you have to put in you know give to

your partner the unconditional be more

loving give what it is that you want

from that and not that it takes effort

because it really is effortless with us

and I think part of that comes down to

being aligned and I believe that to have

a lasting relationship that goes beyond

just that attraction they might have

initially you have to be aligned that

your partner long term so we're both

aligned in terms of the vision that we

have for ourselves for a relationship

with our goals you want the same things

and then also our values too and we'll

go into each of those but yeah and I

mean you said it's so wonderfully I

don't think I can top that but I do you

want to say that you know in a

relationship there's most for the most

part the relationships is easygoing and

things happen naturally

but if you really want an amazing

relationship you do have to put in the

work and there are things that you can

do that are tangible things that you can

rituals that you can do certain things

that you can really put effort into

putting the time and see to improve your

relationships that's really going to

take it to the next level so I've been

in relationships where it's just been

it's been fun it's been great it's been

cool but nothing compares the

relationship that I have now and I'm not

bragging by any means but we just have

such an amazing love affair and I'm just

everyday is just so exciting and it's

not that weird you know doing crazy

things although we do have pretty cool

fun stuff that we get to do but it's

just you know every minute that you

spend with the person you just always

want to be with them and I never feel

like I'm annoyed with him or I just

irritate I remember you know past

relationships I would be annoyed with my

partner irritated I want to get away

from him but with him it's like I don't

feel that and it's because our

relationship is just it's been built

really love so these are some of the

things that we're going to share with

you doesn't work for you no may not work

for everybody but this is kind of just

what we've learned from so that's why

we're going to share it with you so I

think one of the most important things

which we talked on a little bit in the

last video is really making sure that

you have a similar vision and that your

vision is aligned so we definitely have

did that right from the beginning when

we first met we made sure that you know

what I want is aligned with what he

wants and if we did have any you know

differences that we communicated that

and then we decided kind of on us you

know what we would both agree on and so

we had a vision for our relationship so

it's important to have a vision in all

areas of your life so you know Stefan

has a vision for his business I have a

vision for my business for different

areas of her life and also vision for

your relationship so unfortunately don't

have our vision with us today is that my

place but we have written it out so it's

a vision that we sat down together spent

a few hours together thinking and really

thinking and

and writing it down so it's on paper and

you know we always look back on that so

it's something that we can reiterate and

read to each other

you know if we're having a bad day or

you know you feel a little bit off it's

something good to read on and you know

we all know have the value of really

writing things down or putting it on

your wall just the vision that you can

envision basically so that's very

important you want to touch on that yeah

well I I think also I mean you can have

you know she has her vision I have my

vision but they're similar okay they're

not maybe it's totally identical but

they're very similar the most important

aspects of it in terms of you know we

both see ourselves traveling we both see

ourselves you know having a certain

freedom in our lives to be able to

travel to live in different places to to

go down and spend a few months maybe

living in somewhere like California or

they go to Bali or to to both grow and

actualize our potential through self

growth and spirituality vision and

family and and things of that nature and

I think that's such an important thing

because and if we have our separate we

also have one combined ok combined

together to you so for her with her

business the vision that she has for her

health for her fitness etc I support for

with that and in vice versa she supports

me with my mission my purpose and I

think that's where the most important

things you can have something that

doesn't distract you from that

especially as a man your purpose it's so

important you want some that supports

that there your cheerleader but also it

you know having that vision aligned to

get is important to you because you know

otherwise you take it you know to people

they could have attraction they can have

you know get along great with one

another but if one person wants to go

off and have three kids the other person

doesn't want to have kids that's going

to be a conflict high that you know if

one person wants to go and travel the

world and live a certain lifestyle like

that the other person wants to stay at

home again that's getting a conflict you

know I know for me you know I have a

certain lifestyle because my online

business is that I can be anywhere I

total freedom if I want to go to

California if I want to go to Europe if

I want to go anywhere I can you know

there's easily

and you know for her she had a job when

I met her and she you know she doe

realized that she you know your vision

of all to also want people to difference

online not only just for the freedom

that she could create first off and

she's done amazingly well for those

heads are on Lux health and everything

the product sheet she has she's achieved

amazing levels of success and I'm

definitely proud of but you know that

was an important part because if I'm off

you know traveling around the world and

being you know obvious self development

and everything but she's not with me

then we're growing apart you know and I

can oftentimes create resentment maybe

their part is holding you back you know

or maybe they live in a different

location and use a long-distance thing

and I think long-term you got to make

sure that they're going in the same

direction the same track and you're

you're supporting each other rather than

pulling the chill of each other away

mmm-hmm for sure and I think that you

know if you do sit down with your

partner and you be right down your

vision your separate visions together

and then you're creating your

relationship vision if you do find that

there's some conflict if you guys aren't

agree on something I mean that you can

put that off for a while you know maybe

a few months few years maybe a decade

but eventually that's going to cause

friction because like you said you're

going to grow apart so you can't get

away from this you can't get around it

so there's no easy route and have to

really emphasize the value of having

that fishin together so every

relationship I think most relationships

don't have a vision so I think that this

is so important and everyone should

really don't take it like it's not a

joke

don't be silly about it this is legit

this is like an important step to really

taking a relationship to the next level

so for sure and and yeah for me you know

I have a vision with him to do this

traveling and to do things but I found

so often that I wasn't able to go

because I would only get two weeks off

per year or I think was four weeks off

per year for work and so I have to

really like have shorter trips and

backspace you know time so it just

wasn't working out for me although you

know I had a good pan job a steady job I

was doing school at the same time and I

realized that this is kind of taken away

from my true happiness which is the

vision that I have for myself and for my

relationship so I took a leap of faith

and and yeah it's been great so through

that I quit my job and now I'm really

living in my vision so I'm so happy

about that so yeah so having a vision

that you're both aligned on and you know

like she said we both write out the

vision together we actually have it in a

book and we focus on that vision on a

monthly basis or even other times you

know every week or in two weeks and we

have a ritual for that so that we're

always know what the vision is of what

we want to grow in to how we can grow

the relationship how them how we can

really expand it and then what we also

do is we have specific goals and so we

actually both do a goal-setting process

every year and we do it together and

oftentimes a lot of our goals are the

same and I'll give you an example we

both do a juice fast every year some

sort of cleanse or we have our fitness

goals they not just happen to be the

same we make on the same because again

we want to support each other and what

better way to support each other than by

doing it together so a lot of times I'm

sorry to interrupt you but a lot of

times people on my luck's

page who are into weight loss I really

recommend to have their support of your

partner the person who you spend the

most time with because we all know the

person you spend the most time with it's

you become so if they're you know if

you're on this diet plan and this person

is picking out on jump suit all the time

you know although they may be verbally

supportive and supporting you in your

weight loss journey their actions speak

louder than the word so you want to make

sure that that person is also living it

and yeah it's just really important that

way to know and that kind of leads into

the values too because values are really

what's important to you you know

everyone has different things that are

important to them that they really value

and if you know at the top of my list

it's health that's the most important

thing you know for me a top value but my

partner health is really

on their list then that's going to be a

conflict in some way because you know

Here I am wanting to be healthy maybe

eating healthy foods want to go to

healthy restaurants you know and whatnot

and then if my partner she you know

wants to eat junk food and they're

addicted to that it's going to be a

conflict in some way in fact I had a

relationship like that where eyes you

know I don't expect this competition and

you know health was such an important

thing fitness and it's important thing

and you know I'd want it you know be

healthy but then my partner would want

to have the junk food to watch the movie

and everything and then I kind of cave

in too because I'd be influenced by that

and then I kind of blame the other

person I feel bad and resent them in

some funny because I cheated on my diet

and it was just because we were not

aligned with their values whereas what I

found is for us like health is so

important we love healthy food we love

raw food we you know eat the same foods

we go to the gym together again do

cleanses together like it's she shared

with me podcasts and she's sharing ideas

she's learning I'm learning things yeah

go to event together

hi Dean and answer both past row about

it so yeah this is so important and yeah

just a touch on that too is if your

partner just doesn't have the same

values as you you're also just not going

to have that much in common and then

you're not going to have a lot to talk

about with us we've always had so much

to talk about because we do so many

things together but also a part that our

system when we want to share it with

each other we're both crazy both things

to like you know when we travel we bring

a blender with us right rain stevia with

other figure out yeah we're totally

under the set of stuff we'll both

bringing all our supplements with us and

we'll we'll do things that for us is

like it's normal because excess we're

both the same in that way whereas other

people would think that's totally insane

or weird or ridiculous but we're both so

similar with that and I think the same

thing with self growth you have

self-improvement that's a high value for

me also for her so you know we're not in

relationship again if you have a

relationship you're trying to grow

you're trying to improve

a partner thinks that stupid or dumb or

put that down they don't believe in that

and again that's going to critic

oscillate the resentment of upholding

each other back on some level res for us

or both reading books

we're both sharing and talking about

those things we go to seminars together

we you know both watch the same videos

together and and we're both into that

same subject so when you have that when

you have that alignment around those

same values it makes the relationship

more effortless it creates just know

constantly thing that whatsoever and you

feel like it's enhancing your lives it's

helping you grow your both growing

simultaneously and that's important

thing and you know this also it's not

just a relationship with your partner

and intimate relationships but all the

relationships in your life and I really

found this to be true this year you know

I had a big post on my Facebook page

like a ranch basically of me just kind

of letting go and letting out my

emotions because I was holding myself

back because you know back at home I had

some family and friends that really just

you know when I share things with them

about self development or business or

whatever it is that I was interested and

they made me feel like I was inferior

and I was silly or dumb whatever and I

was kind of just like okay right you

know you and it doesn't feel good and so

I would just never really stand up to it

and really own it and really feel proud

about the person I am so I kind of

uncovered this you know I remember I was

working at a car and I was talking about

Tony Robbins and the bartender was just

like mocking him

mocking Tony Robbins and he is just like

oh yeah I need like a cult leader in all

the steps so it's just making sure that

all the people that's not just your

relationship it all repeats all the

relationships in your life they are in

line with you because you want to make

sure that you're surrounding yourself

with people we're going to lift you up

and elevate you so that's the number one

thing too you know and going through

extreme measures to make that happen you

know I moved out of that city to get

away from those people not that they're

horrible people it's just that work

have that much in common anymore so you

know it's just that's so important

yeah and the most important relationship

of all is the partner that you're with

day-in day-out sharing your life with

them so they're going to influence you

in a big way you know as you grow if the

people in your life aren't growing with

you oftentimes you're going to leave

them behind you know and you know

unfortunately that's kind of how it is

with some of those old friends you might

have in high school or certain

circumstances like that but you know in

terms of going back to values you know

also what else is you know whatever else

is important to you whether that's

honesty whether that's integrity or

loyalty or you know spirituality you

know if one person believes in God and

the other person doesn't again that can

create a conflict so spiritually being

aligned and it is you know to be aligned

with everything but there are certain

things that are important certain things

that are an absolute must that you have

to be aligned with in your partner for

it's a last long term okay doesn't have

to be you know like cheese into you know

different movies than me right like I

totally do know I love you know Arnold

Schwarzenegger movies and whatnot and

although she watches me I watch them

because I want to do things that are

going to make him happy

yeah absolutely and you know I make her

sometimes watch the basketball game with

me and everything here so I think you

know yeah things like that you don't

have to be aligned with all of those

things because there's a certain thing

is that a masculine energy is going to

be more into than a feminine you know

and you don't want to be totally aligned

on everything you don't want to be

because you want to have some

differences too because that creates

passion that creates excitement some

energy between the two but there are

certain things long-term that are

important that have to be aligned okay

so um with that yeah yeah just an

example when women sounds like there's a

lot of examples here but I remember my

last relationship one of the

deal-breakers was the spirituality and

it's not that I care you know for my

partner to be exactly the same as me

believe the same things you know on the

same page about everything but I just

wanted somebody who is open-minded and

some

who wouldn't pass judgment and you know

my flat primary he's an amazing person

such a sweet guy but he I found that he

would just judge people really quickly

and judging me and I always felt ashamed

to you know go on a spiritual adventure

and try different things and learn more

about God and all this stuff so I really

wanted somebody who is open and most

more importantly than open just

non-judgmental and just able to really

be accepting of people and and that's

what I found so that was like I've you

know things like values like that that

we're deal breakers those are really

important and you know those quite

quickly in the relationship but

sometimes it takes me years and years

and years until you realize that it is a

deal breaker

so don't some waste the time you know

figure it out in the big dannion by

really writing down those values and

writing down your relationships goals

and all that yeah I know I think I do

want to share that

yeah actually so what we have you know

this videos getting a little bit long

but I just wanna show you really quick

is we have a relationship journal so we

have a few of these and this is our

first more are a traitor so he wasn't

one so a relationship journal another

thing that mates down she's cheesy to

the majority of people but this is this

is gold this is amazing so what we do

with this is on a bi-weekly basis we

check in with each other so we you know

there's anything that we're holding on

to or whatever we can write it down and

we can have a mature conversation about

it and so what we do I'll just kind of

run you down what we do in our girona so

there's certain things we do just on a

regular basis into ritual to capacity

relationship and you know things that we

you know we check in with each other's

needs to make sure we're meeting each

other's needs at a high level we have

certain questions that we ask of one

another as well you know just asking you

know what are you grateful for you know

or what do you what you love about our

relationship or how can we look at you

what more can you give to your partner

you know questions that make you think

together you're doing this that allow

you to take that time to consciously

improve the relationship or if there are

things that are challenge

is or anything like that you can

communicate it as opposed to actually

having that build up over time and then

lead into something la paper the key

with this is to not be excuse me

reactive you can't be reactive and this

goes for your whole relationship a

relationship that is based on reaction

is going to do a no down it's not going

to work out because you constantly feel

like somebody's attacking you you know

you have to know that we have the right

intentions for each other right we

always establish that you know no matter

what I say no matter what I do is with a

good intention and it's with a good

heart so you know our relationship we

never fight ever we never fight and

we've just never had any issues because

we don't think take things personally

and you know a lot of women may you

think that you know oh but I I am very

sensitive and I could have said that

about myself but when you establish in

your relationship that were we have no

bad intentions for each other

you don't become as sensitive because

you don't take things so personally you

know that this person whatever it is

they're saying it's with good intentions

so that applies for the relationship

book as well when you are going through

this you have to know that whatever your

partner says it's not to hurt you it's

to help you so one of the things that we

go through is the 60 menu and everybody

should know the six human needs

it's the 60 Minutes our certainty

variety significant love growth and

contribution and these are originally

from Tony Robin this is a lot of his

works where you know you basically check

in on a bi-weekly basis to make sure and

on a scale from 0 to 10 how much

certainty do you feel in this

relationship and then you think about it

you don't you don't just automatically

say you don't you don't say what you

want the other person here you have to

think about it in your heart and music

hey how did I feel you know today the

last few weeks and um you answer

honestly and they say I feel a time and

you know certainty is security a sense

of the certainty in that relationship

certain for their love you know that's

one me the other one is variety those

are tasks and a scale from zero to ten

how much variety by

like yeah so far woman women love

varieties so if you know a man you know

I had a friend I just got them up on a

blind date I don't know if you're

watching this but it worked out really

well and I told and just a heads up one

I like to have some variety so if you're

the Netflix and chill kind of guy

awesome lots of people like that

everyone likes to Netflix and chill but

you want to spice it up a little bit

surprise her surprises are awesome

Stefan will surprise me on the date once

in a while and we go somewhere and it's

like just be an adventure and I'm even a

destination it's the adventure and it's

just the uncertainty of excitement you

know the unknown yeah and then love

variety as well as the woman you know

spice it up you know be sexy you know

get some lingerie you know try different

things just see what you can should

really think about his needs and think

about you know as a man what is it that

make you that yeah and that's the

important thing here is that a

relationship is a place that you go to

give not to get and so we're focused not

on what we're getting out of it I'm

focused and she's focused on how can I

meet her needs more how can I give more

to her because I know that by doing so

my needs will be met simultaneously

right so I'm not focused on oh they're

not doing this for me or I you know I'm

not getting this from my relationship

and we'll kind of intertwine this in but

there's actually three levels in a

relationship first level where it's all

about you it's just trying to take

you're just demanding things you're

trying to get from your partner that's

level one level two is when it's an

exchange where it's like I'll do this

for you if you do this for me I'll give

you a massage if you give me a massage

right no that's an exchange and level

three the ultimate level is when you

give unconditionally to the partner

there's no condition you give no matter

what even if it's not there even they

don't deserve it even if you're upset

even if you're angry even if you know

you're scared or whatever is there's no

expectations to receive anything and

that is the ultimate place that you want

to be and that's where we are and that's

where we want to be and we want to make

sure you maintain that and so when we

are talking about the six human needs we

make sure that when other persons

answering excuse me not a seven for

certainty I'm speaking about all the

things that I can do to give give give

because I want to give him certainty I

want to give him variety I want to give

him all these

NEADS because that that is stuff that

it's about any relationship it's not

about a give and take it won't work that

way

it won't be healthy table yeah we

weren't asking you know what is it that

you need for me that can allow you to

feel more certain you know what can I do

how can I make it feel more certain and

so you're you're taking responsibility

for everything you know that's the key

thing you you never blame your partner

you always take responsibility you look

at what can I do what can because you

can never have control in relationship

you just have influence that best yeah

you don't own the person yeah so what

could I do to serve you more what can I

do and it might not be based on what you

think they want it's what they actually

want because you might think that you

know you know did for them if you'll

derive your then they feel certain if

this way but other people have a

different belief system and different

blueprint than you right if you're going

to influence someone got to know what

already influences them right if you

can't be doing it based on how you think

you know how you'd meet your needs

because their needs might be different

so you got to pick yourself out of

yourself yeah and focus on level three

you just give your partner in and like I

said you know just the law of the

universe works that when you give you

get you know when you give and you serve

and I know that her being what lit up

and excited and passionate happy filled

you know she's going to reciprocate that

nature

how how amazing do you feel when you

give somebody something that where they

can't ever give you anything back when I

get homeless person money or food or

whatever you know I'm not doing it so

that I feel good about myself but that's

just the reaction that happens I just

feel so good and I feel so amazing

because I know I did something for

somebody that can't reciprocate that

that effect although they did by helping

me but so so same thing with your

relationship you know what I'm doing

something to give to him without

expecting anything I just feel really

good I feel proud of myself I feel less

you need a relationship it's all those

things so when we talk about needs it's

very important to understand that there

are sighs human needs 6q

so let me tell you some what we already

did

certainty variety so significant we're

going ahead yes so it's significant your

talk about the five love languages I'm

sorry cries lovely so what happened yeah

yeah so so this five love languages

we'll get to that a little bit later but

the sixth human needs with certainty

variety of insignificant you'd ask your

partner on a scale from zero to 10 how

much significance do you feel how

important how unique how special do you

feel mm-hmm and then you're going to ask

them how much love do they feel so you

know how much love do you feel like I

gave you this week do you feel like my

heart is yours

I like how much of that do you feel and

you wait for them to answer and growth

how much growth do you feel there is in

a relationship do you feel like we're

growing as a couple and lastly you want

to ask how much contributions do you

feel this can be contribution within the

relationship so it's giving to each

other but this can also be contribution

externally you know contributing to a

charity doing some things together you

know we we have built houses and

Nicaragua last year that was a great

form of contribution that really helped

us grow as well yeah so when you feel in

your relationships your your needs are

met at high level seven eight nine ten

that's when you have a passionate love

affair that's when that's when the

relationship is the most alive and if at

any point in your relationship that it's

struggling that it's not it's instilling

a you know it's maybe you know a bit of

a wall or challenging time or whatever

it is that it's because one of you six

needs aren't being met at a high level

yeah okay because we need when all the

needs are met your partner will never

leave you you'll have no you'll have a

love slate they're not going to get away

they're going to they're going to be

there no matter what

and so that's human beings you know

we're you know we have six reasons why

we do anything and it's because of you

six human needs that we all have so we

have this as a ritual that we do every

few weeks in a relationship it's a great

way to check in and make sure that you

got to in life really you got to catch

things before they get too bad

so a lot of people look like the

relationship is slowly going downhill

but it's not until I get hits rock

bottom's and they finally do something

about it but really it's a relationship

if anything is dying in your life it's

not at the peak or it's not growing

you got to you're going to be aware of

that before it gets too bad so if I you

know if there's ever a time where maybe

we just haven't had a lot of variety

this ensures every two weeks you know

what if your bride is low okay what if

what can we do to bring that us back up

to a 9 or 10 yeah you're always being

proactive in your relationship you're

not reactive and these are things that a

lot of relationships don't do and just

an example for you because I'm sure some

of you want to sample so for example at

September 21st 2016 for me I ranked a I

reached a nine point five out of ten for

certainty and so then he asked me really

means a good nine yeah so you know

sometimes you give the point five

because you want him to feel better if I

yeah so if you ask me so what can I do

to make sure that you receive my

certainty and he wrote it down it says

see eachother Maskin so I guess we just

were at a time where we weren't able to

see each other that often because work

just far away now we live an hour apart

so you're seeing each other once a week

yeah so that's something that one then

you just fixed it these things and we

know what to do as long as you know she

it's not a guessing game you know you're

not asking the other person to guess

you're giving them the answers yeah so

we're going to wrap up this video things

we've been talking for a while but I

mean having a ritual like this in a

relationship is key having the vision

the goals the values align with your

partner we kind of briefly mentioned the

five love languages that's by a great

book by Gary Chapman to identify the

love languages because everyone has a

different love language than you and

you're going to make sure again you're

giving and serving your partner and you

know living living in that level three

those three levels of relationship if

your love level one or two you're going

to have a low quality relationships or

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