hey this is Stefan and I'm Tatiana and
we want to wish you a happy Valentine's
Day
and for those of you that don't know
this is my beautiful girlfriend Tatiana
and she has her own YouTube channel
called Lux health and for those of you
on my channel who haven't been
introduced this is my boyfriend Stefan
my handsome boyfriend and he's from
fossilized master you can find him on
YouTube as well yeah and so what we
wanted to do is to do a collaboration
video series for Valentine's week we
will both share together our experiences
with relationships and things that have
really benefitted us and be able to
share that with you because I know a lot
of people in the project like NASA
YouTube channel they want to know about
our relationships and things that have
worked for us and we haven't really done
this before and so we thought we would
share a lot with you guys
yeah and I'm so excited to be releasing
this video it's totally different than
anything that I either of us have done
before but I think it's such an
important topic what's more important
than your relationship other than your
relationship is so amazing and we're so
blessed to have found each other but we
want to share with you some techniques
and some tips that we do some rituals
that we do that really help just spice a
relationship up and keep that momentum
so I'm so excited that we get to film
this and I'm so glad we're going to
share with you yeah so we actually have
a whole series of videos that we're
going to do each of the video is going
to be on different topics and what we'll
do is we're going to each put this on
our own YouTube channels and we'll
probably creates a whole playlist of the
different videos but just to kind of
summarize the video that we're going to
talk about today or the topic we're
going to talk about in today's video is
on how to attract the right partner in
your life okay so we're going to go deep
into that the second video that's going
to follow this one is on how to create
an amazing relationship that lasts in
the third video is going to be talking
about how to create passion because it's
very important to have passionate
relationship just so things don't get
stagnant and goreng until so that's an
important topic and finally the last
video is just how to communicate better
with your partner because we all need to
learn how to
this important type of dialogue between
a part between partners so those are the
four topics our video series and let's
jump into it yeah so let's dive into
first and foremost how to attract the
right partner in your life and I'll
share my experience is a man and then
maybe Tatiana can share her experience
as a woman and I can offer some insight
and advice for the men out there that
might be single or you might are to be
in a relationship but maybe you've
identified it's not the right the right
one for you because you know I know for
myself many of you already know my story
I was very shy and introverted and I
went down a journey to really change my
life that really developed confidence in
my social skills and I had to go through
a process of self-development to become
a more attractive person essentially to
have the confidence to even talk to a
girl now there's a time of my life
before you met me but my friends back in
the day would know and my family would
knew I was so terrified just to be
around an attractive woman I was so shy
and terrified I just I've heard I'd be
shaking my face would turn bright red
and so I had to go through a journey as
a man to really develop my confidence my
social skills learn how to relate to the
opposite sex learn how to get
comfortable with that and there's a lot
of I went through a crazy journey you
know facing my fears and I think you
know one of the things that I learned
out of all the things you know the years
that I spent going down that path is
ultimately what it comes down to is that
you attract what you are okay you
attract what you are and I believe that
to attract an amazing person in your
life you have to be amazing you got to
work on yourself and you got to develop
yourself your charisma your confidence
or whatever qualities that you'd really
need to be able to attract the
equivalent of that because the truth was
you know as I was before in terms of
being shy and insecure and depressed
when I'm happy in and this really lost
in my life that is not attractive to
anybody you know in fact if I were to
attract anyone it would be the
equivalent of that as
so when I discovered that in order to
attract you know the right partner in my
life I needed to develop myself I needed
to develop my maturity I could develop
my you know every aspect of my life like
mastery right you know that's really
essentially what it is I I realized that
if I wanted to attract someone that is
healthy and fit and I needed to be
healthy and fit if I want to attract
someone that was spiritual and more
conscious I needed to become more
spiritual develop myself and then aspect
to if I wanted to attract someone that
attracted physically then I needed to
become more attractive physically as
well I needed to maybe dress better be
better grooms I had to take better care
of my appearance how I look you know I
did to be all more on purpose in my life
I had to develop my personality so many
different ll is some element to myself
and it can be challenging for a lot of
people because you have to really look
at yourself in an honest a critical way
you have to be willing to be vulnerable
and acknowledge that you know what I got
to improve this part of myself or I get
it I get it maybe work on this challenge
or this issue that I had in order to
become more whole that can allow me to
attract the right person in my life and
so you know those are the most important
things I could share and I think another
piece to to add to that is I also got
very clear of what I wanted I got very
clear on the type of woman that I want
to attract and you know the years that I
spent just dating and having different
experiences I think that gave me a lot
of clarity on what I want or what I
don't want but one thing that I did is
actually wrote out a list I wrote out in
detail the kind of woman that I wanted
to attract in my life I the vision that
I had for that the kind of vision that
had had for relationship and just got
really clear on that and then I also got
clear on who I needed to become and then
I worked on that and then sure enough as
I grew as I became more I was very
blessed and fortunate to attract an
amazing one of my life that you know is
everything that I ever wanted everything
that
list and everything and more than that
so you know I'm the you know proof that
those kind of things work it can call
the law of attraction that you know
whatever you focus on and whatever you
become is what in the track yes and
actually one thing that you should share
is just I think it was a week maybe two
weeks before we get Jeff in had posted
on his Instagram account Oh kind of a
journal and he shared the certified kind
of interests it's actually interesting I
actually I made a little and I wrote
down journaling about the kind of woman
I wanted such specific detail huh you
know brunette and eye color and drop
skin and all of these all the details
you know almost like Spyder wish list
you know what would it be all the
different qualities and I think it's
important when you make the list you
might not attract everything on it but
there's certain things that are the must
for you what are the things that are
non-negotiable they're an absolute must
and you know I wrote down who I needed
to be and what I did was actually made
it into the grant post so you can find
it on my Instagram Stefan James 23 and I
shared that on Instagram that I made my
list I'm looking for my queen in life
and funny enough about a week or two
later she showed up so pretty powerful
pretty interesting stuff so for me um I
don't think I had the level of
consciousness that Stefan had in the
self development rule the world about
knowing what he has to do to improve
himself to attract that partner yeah so
for me I had just gotten out of a pretty
long-term relationship and there was
nothing wrong with the relationship it
just I think didn't have the maturity
that was needed and so coming out of
that I basically just figured exactly
what I wanted I didn't you know I didn't
want a relationship for another year or
so or two years after that but you know
when something comes your way you know
it's right then you know it's right
but basically you know I got clear on
what I wanted I wanted somebody who had
a lot of maturity and wanted somebody
who had a spiritual growth factor
somebody who wanted to to grow
spiritually in different aspects
I wanted somebody who was just very
giving and generous not specifically
with materialistic things but you know
somebody who cared about others you know
wanted to do volunteer trips and work
like that and you know sure enough then
I randomly met I mean it was our story
so so many people ask us how we met and
you know it's not some cool love affair
story it's actually kind of silly but
what happened was I don't know if you
guys know you probably do there's an app
called tinder so we both had downloaded
this app I can't speak for yourself but
for me I downloaded with my friend man
bean and we were just in my room just
playing you know for girls it's fun you
just go through it like swipe sighs you
know it's just like you're passing time
so I had to ask for one week and so I
had liked when of stuff in pictures and
I guess he liked me back so we were a
match and so what happened was I lived
an hour away from where Stefan was
living which is downtown Vancouver and I
had never really come to Vancouver
before but because I'm part Brazilian I
was getting my Brazilian passport done
at the Embassy which is in Vancouver so
for that day I had to drive all the way
to Vancouver and I had four hours to
kill I didn't know what to do because
I'm not from this area so I had my book
and I was just reading a book at
Starbucks and then I kind of got bored
so I'm just razzing through the app
again I said you know what I should
contact somebody who's embankment I seen
each others if we had texted each other
a couple times but we didn't talk to
each other very much and we didn't give
each other or like social media account
details or anything like that
I was our key adamant about not knowing
anything about him before we met and I
think that's an important thing too
but anyway so I messaged him I said hey
do you want to meet up she said sure so
we met up he was coming from the gym
wearing his tank top and just having
like a protein shake and and so then we
just went our walk to the beach and we
ended up spending about four hours five
hours just walking and talking I
remember my feet were like I was right
feels my feet were blistered up but I
kara is like in bliss so we just it was
awesome because right off the bat that
first conversation we had
I remember him asking me such deep
questions questions that were like so
mature and to some other person it might
be like oh you're talking about like
where you see yourself in ten years why
that's such a turn-off why would you ask
me out on a first date but for me as wow
that's so amazing and I'm so excited to
meet somebody who can have this level of
conversation with me so we just really
hit it off and that's my side of the
story yeah for sure I mean you guys
probably already know about the app
tinder I think it's changed a lot since
because I find that oftentimes on apps
like that or online dating type stuff is
that people get so jaded with it because
you know there's just such oftentimes
like really low-quality immature kind of
people that you can find on those apps
and especially for an attractive woman
is getting bombarded with so many
messages and inappropriate things so I
think I was really lucky to snatch her
before she had a chance to go too deeply
back because yeah you know otherwise it
just gets way too much and oftentimes
these girls just get turned off by to
get away from it so yeah so I mean it's
a really a funny thing because I spent
so much time really going out learning
how to actually talk to people and know
how to actually approach them you know
and that's kind of the way that I
thought it'd always be but I think a lot
of the the work that I'd done on myself
you know allows me to have the
confidence to be able to relate to you
and connect with you and and and you
know I'm a big believer too for the guys
out there on on being a natural you know
when you develop yourself to become an
attractive person let's say you don't
have to rely on a gimmick or a trick or
a pick-up line or technique or anything
like that you can just literally be
yourself because you as yourself is
attractive and you've got to assume that
about yourself and so yeah I mean that's
you know we just briefly had a
discussion over text message beforehand
we met up and
you know I thought she was beautiful
right away and right away you know you
can tell them you meet the person the
level the quality of the conversation
and who they are the quality of their
character the consciousness and
oftentimes you know sometimes you can't
relate to certain people the more that
you grow sometimes it's harder to relate
because you might try to bring up a
subject about hey what's your passion or
what do you you know what's your vision
for your life and you know what's
important to know you ask these deeper
questions and you're going to know right
away the quality of person based on the
response you know they can't even answer
that or if they haven't done any self
work or discovery or having a thought
about that kind of stuff then you know
it's going to be a little bit different
than someone that actually is more
evolved as a human being I feel and so
when we had those discussions I remember
there's certain things about you that I
just knew right away that we were
aligned and one thing about her eyes
will be impressed by was that she's just
such a giving person and at the time
that I met you you were doing a lot of
volunteer work you're she was going to
Brazil to volunteer to teach kids
English you're also volunteering at a
seniors at home and also with animals I
think to disabled children so they had
there's animals that are kind of like
rescued animals that help the children
to develop a bond and yeah so that was
cool too
yeah a different thing yeah yeah so
things like that you know contribution
is really important to me giving so we
related with that virtually we connected
even our vision in terms of where you
want to be ten years from now the
lifestyle that we want to have what we
want to create uh so many things and I
think that that was really you know when
you're aligned in that way and we'll
talk more about that into another video
when you're aligned with that person in
terms of the vision and also who you are
it becomes effortless diffic an
effortless thing you don't have to work
at it's not like you had to try to
attract each other it's like we both
connected on such a deep level that we
wanted to see each other again we wanted
to connect again because you know we
just knew what we expand is so rare you
know it's not something you know
can easily find with any other
conversation you know or other people
that are out there when you have that
connection with someone right away it's
such a rare thing and you wanted you
want to grow that you want to see before
that will leave you totally yeah and you
know upon that first encounter with
Stefan I remember him asking me the
question of if you you know if there
were no boundaries in the world you
could do whatever you wanted whenever
you wanted with whomever you wanted what
would you be doing right now and so I
was thinking about it and I was like you
know I would probably be on the beach
and all this stuff and anyway so maybe
that's describing kind of like our our
goals where we would see ourselves in
the next 10 20 years and then we found
out that we're pretty similar with that
so that kind of ties into making sure
that you have similar values and goals
and just kind of aspirations so let's
talk a little bit about that and how
important it is to make sure that your
partner does have is aligned with you
you guys don't have to be exactly the
same there's probably not good either
but making sure that you're very similar
in this in that sense so you want to
start yeah
so I think it's really important for
both people to know themselves both
people to have a vision for themselves
your own life and to know what's
important to you and you know is if two
people don't share the same vision then
there's going to be a conflict you know
if my vision for example is to you know
go off and travel the world and and to
make a difference and they grow and you
know because oftentimes a lot of self
growth is uncomfortable you got to face
your fears or a lot of uncertainty a lot
of unknown and I want to build this big
business and that's my mission
but my partner their mission is more so
they want the security or they they just
wanted a more simple life or they don't
really care to grow that's not important
to them and if there could be attraction
there could be lust but if you don't
share the same mission it's not going to
last because I'm going to be going in
this direction they're going to go in
that direction and as time goes on
you're going to grow apart right you're
not going to be growing together whereas
if you have the same vision the same
goals then you're going to both grow
together as opposed to growing apart
because the other challenge with that
too is that if one person's growing in
this one direction and the other in a
opposite direction then you're going to
also resent the partner because you're
going to feel like they're holding you
back you know and we're very blessed
because we have so many things in common
in terms of our vision in terms of
health and business you know she has her
online business and she's doing awesome
she's quit her job she does it full-time
only started that because we jumped on
the same vision and I realized that you
know the vision that we both want and
the place where we want to be I cannot
be stuck in my nine-to-five job because
that way I can't travel and I can't
enjoy the same things we can't on
contrib contribute in the same way so I
had to get out of that so I had a great
job I enjoyed my job but I realized that
I need to do something online because
online is the only really way that I can
make an income from anywhere in the
world and so for us you know some people
don't value traveling for us we really
value it so I had to make that happen
and so you can you can work towards
things to help you achieve those goals
you may not be there right now
but it can take time to get there and
another thing is you touched on how you
can have luck and attraction to someone
but you might not be the right fit you
know there's a lot of times you know I'm
sure yourself myself where you've been
just so attracted to somebody and you're
like oh I'm just doing love but is it
it's not love because I mean it it's
lust and eight my go on for a year or
two years but eventually that's going to
die down because what's really important
it puts those deeper that's the
relationship the relationship is really
based on your values and your goals and
making sure these things are in line
like you said so that you grow together
because if you don't and you're going to
grow apart and it doesn't matter how
good-looking the person is none of
that's going to matter in the end
because they're just not going to be the
right match for you so it's really
important to kind of take ok yeah this
person's attractive and I really like
that person but I need to go a little
bit deeper and make sure that this
person is right to be with me long-term
in my life because after all I mean do
you really want to waste time
buddy who is you know you know it's not
going to last like for me if I knew
Stefan was just going to be part of my
life for the next two years then I
wouldn't have pursued the relationship
even if it was fun and adventurous and I
and I would enjoy myself I don't care
because two years like time is precious
time is the most valuable asset that you
have and I want to make sure that all
the memories that I'm building I build
with person that I'm going to spend the
rest of my life with so I had known you
know that we're not aligned then it's
over yeah so we're going to go more in
the next video onto how to make a
relationship last which consists of more
the values the vision but I think
knowing that right away it is important
because then you're going to know
whether or not it's the right person for
you right the only only way I was able
to identify that she's the right person
for me was based on me knowing my vision
me knowing my values my padding my
beliefs my own self-worth that allowed
me to identify ok this person's aligned
or this is this person not aligned with
that right and so I think knowing
yourself you know and I think that's a
really important piece and that's why
I'm a big fan of the self development
works and you know it's just such an
important thing so anything else you
want to talk about we didn't get to
touch much on schools I think that
something that we do is every year
together is we set our goals together
and of course we're going to want to go
into that in the next video though where
we'll talk about how does how to create
that more so attracting ok ok in the
next video but that I like to be like
very focused like on track yeah we use
very much the Hubble we will be talking
now for the 20 minutes appreciate you
guys listening and joining in for this
but you want to segment this into
different sections so in the next video
we're going to talk about goals we're
going to talk about more about your
vision your being aligned with the your
partner so that it can last long term
and it's not just a short-term thing and
that's an old item of that but anything
else is going to know that that's great
so we've taken enough of your time so
we'll see you in the next video
yeah so thank you guys so much by the
way if you want to check
my girlfriend Tatyana here then look up
lux health on on YouTube and subscribe
to her yeah and if you want to check out
suggesting if you can search project
life mastery he's got awesome videos on
so many different topics especially
self-development online business really
comes from the heart and just really a
true person no thank you get to follow
yes so thank you guys so much for
joining us we'll see you in the next
video
and the taki soon
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