How To Quit Your Job (Even When You’re Scared Out Of Your Mind)

hey what's up life masters this is

Stefan James from project life mastery

even if you're scared out of your mind

Soph right now you've got a job that you

hate you're looking to get out of that

job you got a new job a new opportunity

that you want to pursue maybe for you

it's your dream job your dream

opportunity that you really want to

pursue in your life or maybe you want to

start your own business and that's our

dream that you want to pursue no matter

what your situation is in this video I'm

going to share a few two different

approaches to strategies that are the

best ways for you to quit your job one

strategy I'm going to share with you is

the strategy and the approach that I

took when I first quit my job when I was

21 years old to start my own business

and pursue my dream that approach to be

honest with you is not the best approach

for 99% of people that are watching this

but I still will share with you the

story and that approach that I took just

in case the 1% of you are crazy mofo is

like myself and want to pursue that the

other approach that I'm gonna share with

you is more applicable than 99% of

people that are watching this it's more

of a smart safe and secure approach

towards quitting your job and it's

probably what I do today especially if I

had kids and the family and other

responsibilities if I had a lower

threshold for risk that's more the

approach and the path that I'd take so

I'm gonna share through both of those

I'll first start with the first approach

that I took when I was 21 years old I

showed you a quick story on this up

until that point is actually working for

my family my family business my dad had

a business doing limestone fireplaces

which we did the mantles and the

surrounds for fireplaces and we made

them in a warehouse and would actually

go to new houses or renovations and we'd

install these fireplaces this was a job

that I worked at for a few years always

kind of grew up working in the family

business did not enjoy the job did not

work in with family did not enjoy

working with family my dad and I would

always kind of fight and argue and he'd

yell at me a lot and nothing was ever

quite good enough and so even though

there might have been potential an

opportunity there for me to take over

the family business deep down inside

there's a part of me that it wasn't my

purpose in life you know it wasn't my

passion it wasn't my mission I knew that

if I just did that for the rest of my

life I'd feel like

settled in my life and there'd be

something more for me and I'd have a

feeling of regret and so I knew I had to

quit that I had to start my own business

and at the time I didn't know anything

about business

I made a transformation in my life

because before that when I was 17 18

years old I got into self-development

and I started improving and changing

myself and my beliefs my mindset who I

was I changed my dating life my

confidence my communication skills and

so I made this transformation and

because I transform myself and achieved

a lot of goals for myself I all right

when I was looking at what I wanted to

do with my life I was like these mentors

and people like Tony Robbins for example

that changed my life I want to do what

they did for me I wanted to be able to

have that impact in the world just as

they've had that impact in my life and

so that always inspired me and so I

decided that 21 years old I was gonna

start my own business the business was

gonna be called lifestyle

transformations and it was a dating

coaching and life coaching business

where my you know my strategy my

approach my vision was that I'd help

other people to build their confidence

and their self-esteem and to share the

things that helped me in my life and I

could coach them and help them and also

help them meet the opposite sex because

that was a something I struggled with

when I was younger I was incredibly shy

and you know afraid to talk to women and

you know struggle with that area in my

life and I was able to improve and make

a lot of changes there that I knew that

I had some value that I could help other

people with and stuff for me I didn't

know anything about business I didn't

know anything about marketing I just had

a passion to help people I believe this

was my purpose in my life and I believe

that I was gonna make it work I believe

that I was gonna figure it out so what I

decided to do was I decided to quit my

job I decided you know what I'm gonna

quit my job on a pursue this full-time

without knowing anything about business

and without having any source of revenue

from this business no clients no

customers none of that no website

nothing I did save up a little bit of

money that I had in a savings account

for maybe that could cover me for about

two months but I decided you know what

I'm just gonna find a way or make the

way I had a strong enough why and

purpose for it and I had the belief and

really faith that I was gonna make it

work and so

for most people this is not the right

approach it's not the best approach for

me it was though at that stage of my

life and my thinking my mentality around

this was that you know I believe that by

putting myself on the line by putting

myself enough when I'm in a situation

where my backs against the wall I've got

to find a way to figure it out so even

though I had money that could cover

myself for maybe a month or two I

believe that the pressure that I put on

myself where all of a sudden became a

must for me to succeed that pressure

that demand had put on myself would

force me to become resourceful to figure

things out to you know wake up early and

stay up late putting whatever

neset whatever I had to do necessary

necessary to achieve success that I

would do it's almost like that if I put

a gun to your head and I said you got to

find a way to make enough money to

support yourself in three months I can

almost guarantee you'll find a way you

know you'll wake you'll wake up earlier

or stay up all night

procrastination fear laziness all of

these system powering habits would

disappear from your life because now

there's a consequence if you don't

succeed and for me my survival was on

the line where I had to find a way and

figure it out and so I remember being

that position where I had to learn

business and marketing I was reading

every book on every event I remember you

know at times I you know approached

strangers on the street and try to

convince them to come to a seminar that

I was putting on I did pretty crazy

things that I look back and I can't

believe that I did but it was because I

put myself on the line and you know some

people might say that's crazy that's

insane I'd never do that and you know

that might be true but I like what it

made of me because I believe it's not

what you get is who you become and

pressure creates diamonds and so by

putting that pressure on myself it

forced me to step up in ways I never

would have before another example of

this at another stage of my life was I

remember I was living in Vancouver

Canada that's where I'm from

and I was living in the suburbs but I

always had the goal in the dream I'm

living downtown Vancouver I just believe

that that if I can find a way to live

downtown that I made it and at the time

you know to live downtown Vancouver it

was like a I found a place for $1,000 a

month which was way more than what I

could have afforded and I wasn't making

much money at the time in my business

and so I had no idea that I was gonna be

able to

for it but sometimes you don't need to

know the how right if you have a strong

enough why and purpose the how can get

you know takes care of itself that's why

I've often said that 80% of success is

wide to do something 20% is the how so I

didn't get too caught up with the

tyranny of the how I just knew that I

wanted this and I'd figure it out so I

remember I signed a 12-month lease I

only had money I think saved up that I

can you know pay for the first two

months of my rents after that I had no

idea how it's gonna come up with the

money to be able to pay to live there

but again because I put myself on the

line I put my back against the wall I

had to figure it out you know a great

example of this is that if you want to

take the island you got to burn the

boats you know that's what the ancient

Greeks used to do when they had an army

and they'd arrive on an island and if

you want to get the soldiers to have no

other options no plan B but the only

plan is that you better take this island

you better win they'd burn the boat so

that there's no possibility of retreat

and so it made it a must for them where

they had to find the way there's no

turning back and so for me I I put

myself in that situation because I was

looking for ways to challenge myself and

step up and grow in my life and by doing

that it it did it took me to a whole new

level in my life I found a way to pay

pay for the rent and make more money and

sometimes when we were too comfortable

and we don't put those demands on

ourselves we don't grow so for me that

was something that I was willing to do

and another quick story before I go into

approach number two which is probably

more suitable for some of you because

that approach I just sheriff you might

scare the heck out of some of you

especially with this title this video

even if you're scared out of your mind

but I remember you know one thing that

inspired me I want to share this with

you was a story a semester Stallone most

of you know Sylvester Stallone from the

Rocky movies the actor the director and

everything he was struggling in his life

and he had the goal the dream of being

an actor and he addition for many

different movies and went to different

agents offices and just kept getting

denied kept getting rejected whatever

roles that he'd get would be roles of

him kind of playing a bouncer or a

security guard or a gangster and getting

you know get beat up or whatever but he

just had this goal in this dream and he

wouldn't give up and one day his

changed because he wrote and had the

idea for the movie rocky and so he wrote

the whole script for it

and he had full belief that this would

succeed and change his life and make him

into a star and make him successful and

so when he was you know when he wrote

the movie Rocky he went to different you

know producers and different agents and

whatnot he started pitching it and he

got rejected time and time again you

know every producer said is too

predictable it's not gonna work you know

he's getting a lot of negative feedback

on it but he knew what he wanted and he

refused to give up and what happened was

he was struggling financially he could

hardly support himself as he was

pursuing this dream and you know he got

the points where he had to sell his

wife's jewelry and his relationship with

his wife was really rocky part of the

pun but it was rocky and you know with

too many different challenges but he

refused to go and get a job and the

reason was his mindset was which I

really benefited from was that he was

afraid that if he went and got a job he

lose his hunger right he get seduced

back into the comfort of that and

sometimes when you're comfortable we

don't make a change in fact a lot of

people they don't quit their job until

they hit a threshold right where your

job right now might be okay might be

comfortable maybe there's some

frustrations and challenges that you

have but it's not until it gets to the

point where I get so bad and those that

the pain stacks to the point where you

you get to the point where you're like

you know what not another day I'm out of

here I got to quit that's when you hit

that threshold you make the decision no

different than people that are in

relationship it might be an okay

relationship but it's not Kelly gets to

the point where you're just tired of

having no passion no love and it's not

the right relationship for you and

there's you know tired of wasting time

in it that the pain allows you to hit

that threshold where you finally decide

that I'm gonna break up with this person

and that threshold is what allows you to

do it because you know everybody stays

in relationships or jobs way too long

when they know that they should have

quit or left that relationship so much

earlier so he was afraid of just kind of

getting back to that place and he kind

of enjoyed being that position where

he's always hungry and driven and had to

be on his own and be resourceful and so

sure enough would kind of shorten the

story a bit he ended up finding someone

so actually one part of the story very

for a tional yeah she ended up getting

to the point you're so desperate that he

ended up selling his dog his best

friends and you know he loved his dog

more than anything in the world and he

added up going to a liquor store and

trying to sell his dog to strangers and

finally found a man that biased jumped

his dog for like fifty bucks is the

lowest point of his life and what

happened was he finally found someone

that believed in rocky and the script in

the movie and they negotiated he offered

more money than he ever could have

imagined in his life but he said to them

there's a catch which is that I have to

play rocky I'm rocky and the company the

producer said no way you know you're a

nobody you're not an established actor

it's way too much risk if we're gonna

spend this money to have you play Rocky

we're not gonna take that risk and so

they ended up negotiating he ended up

getting you know hardly any money for it

not much compared to what they offered

originally but he knew his dream and his

purpose which is to be rocky and sure

not the first thing that he did once he

got that deal and I think I forget the

numbers but maybe it was like $15,000

he went back to that liquor store and

said I want to buy my dog back and he

kept coming back every day he wait

spent all day there and he was trying to

find the man that would have his dog

hoping that he'd frequent the the liquor

store that he sold his dog to and sure

enough after a few days the man arrived

he was there with the dog and so

sylvester stallone said hey sir do you

remember me

I sold you the dog the man said oh yeah

yeah I loved the dog loved the dog and

he said you know what listen I know you

do but how does that a desperate point

of my life and I'm here because I want

to buy my dog back and I know that I you

know you paid me 50 bucks but I want to

give you double that I'm gonna give you

$100 so that I can buy back my dog and

the man said no way I love the dog

there's no way that are gonna buy him

back and so sylvester stallone knew what

he wanted and he was resourceful and

said listen I'll offer you $200 for the

dog and the man said no way there's no

amount of money that you can offer me

they'll allow you to buy back the dog so

Sylvester Stallone kept changing his

approach he offered them $400 he ended

up buying the dog back I think going

back and forth for like a couple

thousand bucks you know so here you got

like fifteen thousand dollars I think

for the movie Rocky the you know selling

it he made way more after that of course

once it you know got

you know put out there and everything

and it changed his life but it was just

really a nice story to hear how that's

what he did and he ended up giving a

couple thousand bucks some of the

fifteen thousand and he made to be able

to buy back his dog and so as always

really motivated inspired by that and so

it might be of some value and be helpful

for some of you that are in that

position that are looking to go forward

and just quit and be in that situation

when you want to figure things out and

find the way but here's what I'll say

that's not the best approach for 99% of

people and it wouldn't be the approach

that I'd probably take today and the

reason for that is I think you've got to

know what your risk threshold is see for

me I was 21 years old I was a willing to

take on that risk because for me I

didn't have anything to lose you know I

knew that you know I was living with

roommates at the time but I knew I could

always live back with my mom I knew I

could always get another job I know I

didn't have a lot of expenses in my life

I didn't have an expensive lifestyle I

didn't have a family I didn't have kids

I didn't have a mortgage I didn't have

those things and so I was able to take

on that risk you know if I had kids and

if I had a wife and if I had other

responsibilities and obligations and

debts then I wouldn't that wouldn't be

the smartest decision to do because now

you're making a decision it's not just

about you but it's about your family and

your decision has consequences that will

affect them and so I wouldn't be willing

to take on that risk if it would affect

them in that negative way and cause harm

to that and cause harm to our future so

even though it worked out well for me

and I'm a little bit crazy in that way

it might work out for some of you guys

that are younger that can take on that

risk and really go for it but here is

what I think is the more intelligent

approach and the safer more secure

approach I'll share with you a few tips

and strategies here for you number one

if you're starting your own business for

example okay or you just want to you

know get out of this job and find a new

job or a dream job that you want to

pursue what I recommend that you do is

to set a date okay set a date in your

calendar

maybe it's twelve months from now maybe

it's six months from now but set a date

so that's the date of when you're gonna

quit your job that's the date when

everything is going to become real for

you that you're gonna now start your

business or you're going to have that

dream job lined up that you're going to

gonna be pursuing a starting instead

okay by having that date it's gonna

create a sense of urgency for you okay

where every day is gonna matter every

single day is gonna be an opportunity

for you to plan and prepare for that day

of when you're really going for it and

pursuing it so that's one of the

smartest things you can do if you don't

have that date then it's just going to

be a dream for you it's never going to

come to reality so set that date have

that date whatever amount of time that

is this is the day that I'm starting my

business and that means you got to get

certain things lined up prepared to the

best the best way you possibly can so

that when you do decide to quit your job

on that day you're gonna be ready

prepared to succeed okay so that's

number one number two is you've got to

make sure that you have money put aside

you got to make sure that you have a

savings or an emergency fund I always

recommend at least three to six months

of whatever your existing income is from

that job or your expenses because there

is some risk in quitting and pursuing

this new business or this new draw job

the risk is of course if it's your own

business it could fail or you might have

some slow months or months where you're

not making enough money from it in which

case you want to make sure you have the

security that you can kind of dip into

that savings for a rainy day if you need

to to be able to support yourself and

your family so that will give you peace

of mind okay it will give you some

confidence and belief to pursue it by

having that money put aside or maybe

it's this new job and you know this new

job you know it doesn't work out for

whatever reason and you're on your own

again and you can't get back your old

job you got to find a new job again and

maybe you got to go a few weeks or

months without a job right in which case

you're gonna need that saving this that

you built up to be able to support

yourself so really making sure that you

have that security that emergency fund

is really important because it's gonna

give you more confidence and belief

you're gonna have kind of like a plan B

and you've always got to you know expect

the best but plan for the worst so yes

go into it optimistic confident and

expecting the best it's gonna happen for

you you're gonna be successful this new

business will do well this new job is

going to do great but you still got a

plan

for the events that it doesn't do well

you've got to try to mitigate

the risk and look at the downside of

what could occur and plan for it so that

if it does happen it's not a big

surprise and you're prepared for it ok

the other thing that I'd recommend if

you're starting your own business make

sure what I what I would do is build

your business as you're working at your

job and make sure that your business is

fairly established and making at least

enough money to be able to pay for your

expenses before you quit your job and

pursue your business full-time ok so

let's say you need three thousand

dollars a month ok you want to make sure

a business is producing at least three

thousand dollars a month

consistently okay not just for one month

or two months you want to make sure at

least for several months that business

has been producing that amount of money

ok it's stable it's secure because a lot

of people they quit their job and their

business you know it has one good month

and they think that's gonna last forever

but you've never had the bills business

long enough it hasn't been consistent

enough for you to really know how long

that's gonna last because business is

not like a job we were getting paid the

same amount of money every month some

months might be a lot better than other

months some months might be a high month

other months it could drop down and it's

really based on the results and certain

parts of the business so a business you

want to make sure it's a little bit more

mature ok it has to have some maturity

to it it has to have established itself

at least for a few months I think

probably at least 6 months of that

business consistently bringing in that

amount of money that you need to survive

and pay your bills

I would not quit my job and lessers

doing it for at least six months

ok maybe even longer than that because

some businesses you got to keep in mind

can be a little bit seasonal you've

never had if you haven't had the

business for one year yet you don't

quite know there might be some months

where sales drop maybe the market drops

a little bit there's less demand for

whatever it is that your business is

other months might be higher months so

maybe the holidays is like a really high

month for you in December but maybe the

summer months are slow for you so the

more time that you have to establish

that business the more certainty that

you're going to have to be able to

project that this business can now

support you you know long term and

everything so that's an important thing

if you are starting your own business

if it is like a job you'd want to make

sure that as you have your existing job

that new job is lined up for you okay

and make sure that that new job is gonna

be a good fit for you obviously get some

you know provide for you fund

financially and meet certain

requirements that you have but I can't

stress enough really the key is this

preparing preparing as much as you can

for that and just having that date okay

having that date is gonna allow you to

do that you're gonna have to create a

plan for yourself this is what I'm gonna

need in place for me to quit my job to

do it in a way where I'm confident and

comfortable in making this decision of

expecting the best but I'm also planning

for the worst-case scenarios and I have

contingency plans that if it doesn't

work out with this new business or this

new job then what are you gonna do so

having those contingencies having the

back-up plan if it doesn't work out I

can go back to this job or is this other

opportunity that I could pursue instead

having that back-up will also give you

peace of mind and help you mitigate the

risk okay so that's what I would do

that's what I recommend for most people

they're building their online business

put money aside save okay as with the

existing job that you have and also at

the same time slowly work away at

building your business and you know your

job right now if you're building your

own business is an advantage for you

even though that you might have is you

might not have as much time to work on

your business because of your job the

benefit that your job provides for you

is money and cash flow and you know you

can spend some time on the weekends and

evenings building your business while

you have this job but excuse me but also

some of the money that you make it from

the job can allow you to build your

business faster than you ever would be

able to just by putting your time into

it so it is great to have more time to

focus on your business but you if you

can use some of the money you're making

from your job to you know help grow your

business at the same time that often

times can be a lot better so for example

maybe it's finding a good course or

training program that you can go through

and we'll help you build your business

efficiently and the smartest way

possible as you're working at your job

and you could slowly go through the

course and build your business that's

what most people do and what I recommend

because then you're saving time and

money by having

course that is providing experience and

knowledge for you that's helping you get

there a lot faster okay so really it's

about being smart being efficient

planning and strategizing the best way

you can to make sure that when you make

this decision it's gonna change your

life and be the right decision for you

so I remember you know that decision

that I made when I was 21 years old was

one the best decisions of my life my

life's changes so many ways and I loved

being an entrepreneur entrepreneurship

is not for everybody some people you

know having a great job and a great

company and one that you love and enjoy

that can be incredibly fulfilling for so

many people being an entrepreneur also

you know comes with stresses and

challenges and risk and responsibility

and you know some of the things that

I've done if I share through the stories

might scare you away a little bit but I

think the key is knowing what you want

for your life and who you are and what

your strengths are and gifts and what

your passion your purpose is and I think

the key is pursuing that you know if you

don't pursue it you're not going to

really feel happy or fulfilled you're

always gonna wonder what if and so

getting clear on that is really

important and making sure that you have

the right plan and strategy to help you

get to where you want to go that's what

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