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that I can I want to talk about
something today that I think will make a
big difference for your life something
that's made a big difference in my life
and if you guys are open to it then I'm
gonna invite you guys to participate on
a challenge that I think can help better
and improve your life you know we're all
here because you're committed to mastery
right that's what my brand is about
that's what you guys are about on
youtube and then I think mastering your
life it's you know consistent
during every aspect of your life or
emotions or happiness your finances or
business your career your relationships
every area of your life and I think
emotionally is one of the most important
areas of our lives because that's one of
the core primary areas that affects
everything else if you can master your
emotions you can omastar your own
well-being then it's gonna give you
incredible power that can help you
achieve almost anything that you want
it's going to enhance every other
experience that you have through life
it's going to have helped enhance your
relationships it's gonna make you
healthier it's gonna enhance your
business and your financial success
care of and mastering your emotions and
there's a common trend there's there's
there's patterns that I've observed and
I've experienced myself that really
holds a lot of people back emotionally
it really affects people and I think
more importantly it affects their
happiness and I think that one of you
know a core belief that I have is that
every human being we all want to be
happy right I think that's just a prime
purpose that we all have in our lives
where we want to be happier we want to
experience at least pleasure
you know Sigmund Freud you know in his
earlier books talked about the pleasure
principle how human beings biologically
were built to with the desire to
experience more pleasure whether that's
food or sex or whatever that might be
and I think that a lot of us we have you
know different strategies different ways
that we can experience more pleasure
more happiness in our lives you know for
example some people their whole model is
that if I achieve more if I become
successful then I'm gonna be happy and
I'm gonna experience all this incredible
pleasure by making more money then
that's gonna allow me to be happy by me
changing my body and being more athletic
or more ripped or bigger or stronger
whatever that might be then that's gonna
allow me to be happy right or if by
attracting this amazing person in my
life a great relationship and falling
madly in love then that's what's gonna
make me happy and so everybody has a
blueprint a set of beliefs about what
has to happen in order for us to
experience happiness and then to some
people you know that they say I don't
want to be happy right and they
really they do I think everybody does
deep down inside but their way of being
happy is a different strategy a lot of
people they get happiness or pleasure in
the sense of bringing other people down
attacking people being a hater being
negative and in doing so it helps you
elevate yourself and will help you know
that person feel more significant or
more happy about themselves also so I
think everybody has different ways
different strategies to experience
happiness and I think you know
understanding that you can experience
happiness right now in this moment and
there are certain things that you can do
that can allow yourself to feel happy
and especially in a more sustainable way
now today's topic is something around
complaining how to stop complaining and
how to be happy and I want to share
through something called a 21 day
complaint free challenge which if you're
open to it you want to take it on you
want to step up and experience more
happiness and I think this is something
that can really benefit you in a big way
and there's a really great movement
called the complaint free world by Will
Bowen and I do recommend checking out
his website maybe I'll link to it below
on the YouTube channel after this is
done but check out his work because it's
really good he's the best-selling author
of the book called a complaint for you
world and he started this whole
complaint free challenge and it's really
kind of grown in so many ways and you
know he talks a lot about the detriments
of complaining how complaining really
affects us in a negative way and I'm not
sure if you are someone that complains
or you might not even be aware of
complaining that you might you might do
yourself or you know other people in
your life but in many ways it's very
destructive because complaining is just
negativity is all it is you know I'm a
big fan of the quote by Maya Angelou
Maya Angelou said that if you don't like
something then change it and if you
can't change it then at least change
your attitude about it and there's many
things in our lives that are outside our
control most things are outside our
control that can affect us and you know
a lot of people is complaining about
those things
that of understanding what you can
control and taking responsibility for it
which is how you interpret things the
meaning that you create of different
things in your life and you can always
have a positive filter you can always
see things in a positive way and come up
with a more empowering meaning a more
positive way of looking at things
that just because something might have
happened or something that was unjust or
someone ripped you off or someone cut
you off in traffic whatever it is you
can't control that but you can't control
how you react and if you can't control
your reactions and just stop and take a
minute and actually interpret things and
find an empowering meaning then you're
gonna be a slave to all these events
that happen in your life that are
outside of your control and that's how
most people are most people are so
reactive in their lives that they react
the moment something happens they go to
a negative state and all they're really
doing is they're modeling or sorry
they're running a pattern that they have
they're running a default pattern that
they have when events happen that are
unjust or negative or whatever it might
be their pattern is to complain to be
negative to share that with other people
complain in a negative way to gossip and
it's just destructive it's not anything
that it's positive in any way and what
it does is it feeds that and it feeds
most people's unhappiness because when
you complain and you're negative about
other people you're also negative and
complaining about yourself a lot of
people they beat themselves up a lot of
people they're mean to themselves they
judge themselves they judge others and
you got to always understand that
whatever you put out comes back to you
it's like a mirror right a lot of people
they project they project these
complaints these negativity onto others
and it's really just a reflection of
themselves and so taking responsibility
is a key thing now why do people
complain why do people complain great
question well there's actually five
reasons and these five reasons are from
Will Bowen and he has an acronym for it
that he calls gripe ok gripe and the G
stands for to get attention okay that's
one reason why people complain to get
attention when when you complain and you
share this thing that happened or
whatever it might be
you're getting attention from other
people and oftentimes you get sympathy
from other people right other people
they're like oh you know what I'm so
sorry that had to happen to you that
that's so unfair you know that that
person you know ripped you off or that
person to cut you off in traffic or this
happened but whatever it is and you get
attention for it you get rewarded in
many ways by other people giving you
their attention in their sympathy and it
feeds that pattern so it allows you to
feel more significant special unique
important and most people not not not
all you know but there's a lot of people
out there that are very insecure they're
very unhappy and and they don't get much
attention and so it's almost like a kid
you know when a kid tries to get your
attention and it can't get your
attention in a positive way then it's
gonna resort to a negative way right the
kid might start breaking things or
yelling or screaming because they have
no attention whatsoever to not be loved
or not feel like you're enough that's
the the greatest fear that most people
have so some attention is better than no
attention right that's the same reason
why a lot of people might stay in the
destructive abusive relationship because
they get some form of love and attention
even though it's not the peak of what
they can actually experience and what
they deserve
they'll stay with that person just
because it's a low level of love it's a
low level of attention and so a lot of
people they complain just and get
attention to get sympathy from other
people and I think it's even more
evident online you know on the internet
you know it's a pretty interesting thing
I want to share with you guys for me in
my personal life over many years I've
surrounded myself with really incredible
people that I feel very blessed to call
my friends my family people that you
know I've met through self-development
and and me improving myself the friends
the people that I have in my life
they're people that are positive people
there are people that are similar to
myself they're people that are into self
growth they want to improve themselves
they want to
improve every aspect of their life and
they're really great people and with me
and my friends and even my family we
don't complain you know it's a very
interesting observation that I had us
like you know we don't really complain
or speak negative about events or things
of that nature we always kind of keep
things on a positive level we don't get
caught up and just any negativity
whatsoever we all have I feel that
awareness
excuse me amongst ourselves and our
friendships and then what what's
interesting is that when I started
putting myself online on the internet on
YouTube and social media and whatever it
is I didn't realize how many people
there are that exist out there that
complain and that are negative and
initially I was blown away by it because
I was kind of you know we all kind of
live in our little bubble you know
oftentimes like our personal life or
friends or family or our co-workers or
classmates or whatever it is and then
the Internet is worldwide and you're
reaching and being exposed to millions
of people around the world with totally
different backgrounds beliefs age groups
so much diversity that exists out there
and has blown away kind of getting a
glimpse of a lot of people's psychology
a lot of people's mindsets a lot of
people how they think and what they
believe and how they react to things
being in business working with a lot of
customers have been really amazed and
fascinated by other people's thinking
their mentality as well and one thing
that I think is evident online is
there's a lot of negativity there's a
lot of hate there's a lot of complaining
you know if you look at any YouTube
video any you know the comments or
whatever it is they're gonna find a lot
of complaints a lot of negativity people
that will always find something to
complain about and the truth is as
someone that is a complainer you'll
always find something ok it's it's never
that the circumstance but it's all about
how people filter their experience
through that so they'll always find
something to be negative about to
complain about right don't you know
someone like that in your life or have
come across someone that no matter how
beautiful the environment is they'll
still find that one little thing to
point out and be naked
about you know I've even experienced
this with you know my videos and stuff
like that often laughs when I see some
of these complaints about a video or
content or something that has the power
to really influence your life in a
positive way that has the power to
change your life on so many levels but
that person they'll find the one little
negative thing about how the camera was
like off balance you know or a little
bit out of focus or the sound wasn't
totally crisp or you know I made a
mistake when I spoke or I mispronounced
this or whatever it might be they'll
look for the negative thing because
that's how they've trained themselves
but also I think that human beings
biologically where we have biological
programming of looking for what's wrong
because human beings the purpose of our
brain is for survival right to stay
alive to protect ourselves and that's
why we have fear fear is actually a good
thing it keeps us alive and so we have
this within ourselves to look for what's
wrong to help protect herself to keep us
safe and keep keep us living and I think
you've got a take you got to be
proactive with your life your mindset
your thinking and not so reactive and
have awareness which is a key thing okay
so let's go back to the five reasons why
people complain one is to is the G for
the gripe is to get attention the the
arm is to remove responsibility remove
responsibility people complain because
they want to remove responsibility from
themselves and they want to put it on
someone else they want to blame someone
you know blame the company the
government the president they want to
blame this other person whatever it is
so that they don't have to take
responsibility about why things didn't
work out the way that they wanted them
to or what how they expected them to and
so they're basically just deflecting
responsibility and whenever you deflect
responsibility you're giving away your
power you have no power when you blame
someone else because then you're putting
things outside of your control but if
you take on the responsibility of
whatever's happened in your life even
though it might not be your fault
whatever it is now however you want to
justify it you take on that
responsibility that gives you power
because now you're in a situation where
you can do something about it you can
make that change you can you can solve
the problem you can grow from it you can
use that experience as an asset for you
to become better so removing
responsibilities deflecting blaming
other people blaming other events you
got to understand that really everything
in your life you are responsible for you
are responsible for everything that
happens to you in your life even if it's
unjust even if it's unfair you've still
got to take responsibility for it
because you're the one that's made the
decisions in the first place that put
you in that situation right you're the
one that decided to start that business
so you've got to be responsible for
everything that happens to you within
that business no matter if something
happens to Amazon you can blame Amazon
you can blame other customers no it's
your fault because you are the one that
decided to get into that business in the
first place right that ultimately is
your responsibility and you've got to
have the consciousness the awareness to
understand that things can happen right
things can happen you've got to be
prepared for that
and that's why I'm a big fan of
anticipation it spoke about that a lot
in my last stream to anticipate
potential challenges problems that are
going to arise so that you can do
something about them so number one get
attention number 2 remove responsibility
number 3 the eye in the grippe the
acronym is to inspire Envy inspire Envy
you see a lot of people they complain so
that they can feel better about
themselves they put other people down
and they gossip they create rumors or
whatever it is so they can feel more
significant they can feel better about
themselves and it's almost like the
person that you know whenever that
person makes a Fault in their life you
know some people that the first people
that to point that out to share it
because you know if you take somebody
who's successful or someone who's a role
model or someone who's this professional
athlete or a celebrity or whatever it
might be you know the first thing that
the
does the news is you know whenever that
that mistake happens they want to point
that out and oftentimes other people
they love consuming negative news
negative media because when they read it
they learn about how this person you
know had an affair or this person's
getting a divorce
or this thing happened to this person or
whatever it is it makes them feel better
about themselves as well and so not even
complaining but even just you consuming
negativity I find so many people to get
attacked online right and other people
they just love reading about this person
getting ripped into you they love just
consuming all this content and seeing
all these negative comments of everyone
ripping into this person or that person
or whatever it is and again it makes
them feel better it makes them feel like
their life isn't as bad and you know
it's a very sad thing because you know I
think that there's two ways to have the
tallest building in a city if you want
to have the tallest building in the city
you can either build it yourself
which requires a lot of hard work a lot
of sacrifice dedication having a vision
and really going for it or what you
could do is you could tear down all the
other buildings around you and what's
faster and often easier is tearing down
all the other buildings tearing down
everyone else around you and sure enough
you can do that you keep you have to
call this building but there's very few
people out there that instead of tearing
other people down they'll decide you
know what I'm gonna put my life in my
own hands I'm gonna take responsibility
for things in my life and I'm gonna go
for I'm gonna do whatever it takes to
build and create the life that I want to
build a business that has value that can
make a difference and add value to the
world in a meaningful way and do it in a
way without getting caught up in all the
negativity that surrounds them so those
are the first three and just to recap
again number one for the grippe of the
five reasons why people complain is to
get attention
number two is to remove responsibility
number three is to inspire Envy the
fourth reason why people complain
is for power power and again it goes
back to people wanting to feel more
significant to put other people down the
complain about this or that because it
helps them have that tallest building to
feel like they have power like they have
value in some way and you know like I
said before it's a very low level way of
experiencing these things because most
people they don't have vehicles that are
empowering in their lives that can allow
them to elevate themselves to feel
happier and so complaining is just a
very easy way you can do it an honest
anonymously online you don't even have
to put your face out there you don't
have to you know be out there in anyway
and you can bring other people down just
so that you can have that sense of
feeling good about yourself now the
fifth reason why people complain the e
in in gripe is to excuse poor
performance excuse for performance that
any complaint is really just an excuse
you know I don't know about you guys I
can't stand working with people where
you know if you've committed to
something you said that you're gonna get
something done whether it's a certain
result or whatever it is that you know
they didn't get it done for whatever
reason but that what often follows that
is an excuse some sort of reason or
story about why things didn't work out
the way that it worked out and then
often that leads to someone complaining
about again something outside of the
control where they're removing
themselves from responsibility you know
I was supposed to be you know at work at
a certain time but you know there was
traffic and you know I wasn't able to
get you know to work on time because of
the traffic there's a car at whatever it
might be I understand you're still
responsible for that because you're the
person that didn't anticipate the fact
that there could be traffic and decide
you know what I'm going to be proactive
today and you know I know the time is
nine o'clock in the morning and there's
going to be traffic it's rush hour so I
need to be smart about this I need to
get my car earlier and leave for work so
that I can ensure that I'm on time
instead of deflecting and removing or
self and responsibility and excusing
your poor
formants and finding something else to
blame such as traffic or weather or
whatever it is so you're responsible for
everything when you take on
responsibility you have the ultimate
power because then you're have the
ability to change and have control over
your life because deflecting
responsibilities you have no control
when you take on the responsibility you
have control so those are the five
reasons why keep a complaint
okay I'm gonna quick recap the grippe
acronym is get attention the R is to
remove responsibility the I is to
inspire Envy the the P is for power and
the e is to excuse poor performance now
how do you stop complaining you know
hopefully you'd be able to recognize
that it's an actual issue that a lot of
people have I think the first step is to
take on awareness okay be aware of
what's coming out of your mouth be aware
of your patterns and also be aware of
other people's patterns around you be
aware of any time that you speak
negative about someone or something or
an event or whatever it is be aware of
that and by you being aware of it it's
gonna help you to be able to interrupt
that pattern and do something about it
to change a negative into a positive
to take the better course of action and
not indulge in this negative attitude
this this negative mindset this negative
thinking you know will Bowens get a book
as I mentioned called a complete free
world and he has the 21-day complaint
free challenge and he actually has these
bracelets similar to what I wear here
these mastery bracelets that we have
that say mastery on them their project
life mastery bracelets and a great way
to develop awareness is anytime you
catch yourself complaining or speaking
of something negative then what you want
to do is take the bracelet on your wrist
remove it and put it on your other wrist
now that simple act develops awareness
saying hey wait a bate a minute you know
I was complaining okay I got to switch
it to the other wrist another kind of
technique
you can do I learned this a long time
ago is that when you when you speak
something negative you can have an
elastic band around your wrist and then
every time you speak something negative
or you catch yourself complaining just
grab that elastic band and snap it and
it definitely helps if it's a little bit
painful for you just has a reminder to
associate pain to complaining and being
negative okay
so awareness is really the first step be
aware be aware of these things if you
catch yourself complaining the next step
is to do something about it to have
something that you can do instead that
is more positive that's more empowering
something that you you would like to to
be or do instead that is more empowering
a more sustainable long-term so a simple
way that I like to do it is anytime that
I catch myself complaining I'm like okay
you know what that's not who I am that's
not what I stand for that's not
acceptable
so I'll immediately recognize it and
then the second thing I'll do is I'll
come up with an empowering positive
opposite of that the antithesis of that
right so if I catch myself for example
saying complaining about you know this
customer or this person you know did
this to me or whatever it is then I'm
gonna immediately catch myself and said
you know what I love this person now
what do I appreciate about this person
or just find a way to take that negative
and turn it to a positive and I think
gratitude is one of the best ways of
doing that finding something to
appreciate about the situation or the
circumstance I think gratitude is one
most powerful emotions that we can all
experience you know one quote from Tony
Robbins is that if you want to change
your life change your expectations to
appreciation and that most people their
unhappiness is the result of preferences
that they have expectations that they
have they're not not being fulfilled
they're not being met and so people they
expect other people to react to them
this way they expect this to happen they
expect you know whatever is to happen
and when it doesn't meet their
expectations they feel unhappy and sure
enough they complain now the reality
there's always something to be grateful
for there's always something to be happy
about there's always something to
appreciate you know a great example of
this you know Apple just came out with
you know they came over to Apple iPhone
7 right and they also just came out with
the new MacBook Pro and I actually
bought both I've got the iPhone 7 here
which I enjoy and I got my MacBook Pro
coming in the mail soon which I'm
excited for and whenever Apple releases
a product you know it's just always
fascinating to see how many people
complain right how many people they find
something to complain about with Apple
they complain about you know with the
new MacBook Pro they complain about the
price going up right they raise the
prices on their products they complain
to boats you know the book you know the
performance and I was reading this
article which I caught myself I was like
I can't read this anymore
this person was complaining is like
because they made it lighter and they
made it thinner and he was complaining
about that right so it's like it's
totally mind-boggling how people find
something to complain about with the
iPhone 7 people are complaining about
there's no headphone jack but there's
actually you know they have a little
adapter that you can connect into you
know the port on the iPhone that you can
connect any headphone to so why is it
even a issue why is it even a problem
but again people still find something to
complain about and what's even more than
singing about this is that Apple you can
find something complain about with them
or how about instead you find a way to
get to appreciate them appreciate that
there's a company like Apple that exists
in the world the number one company in
the world that is providing products and
solutions and things that can benefit
your life that you know instead of being
entitled which a lot of people they have
this entitlement mentality where there's
some title to everything or whatever it
is instead realize that this is a gift
that is being provided for you apples
provided this amazing technology that
they're improving they're making it
better that you get a benefit from and
yeah it costs money yeah
it's not perfect yeah you know it you
know every every product is guys flaws
or whatever but instead focus on the
positive aspects of that focus on the
good that this product can provide for
you in your life and how it can enhance
your life I'm appreciative of everything
in my life and especially the little
things because life is made up of all
the little things you know oftentimes
people they wait for the big things in
order to feel happy now the truth is I
want you guys to pay attention to this
the truth is if you're not already happy
and appreciative of what you already
have in your life then what good is
there what point is there for you to go
out there and attract more because if
you can't find a way to appreciate and
find the value the good
and feel grateful for all the little
things that you currently have then
going out there to get more is not going
to make things any better if you're
someone who's complaining and
unappreciative of everything then you
know if you're gonna have more money
you're gonna have more in your life
you're still gonna run that same pattern
of complaining of negativity or whatever
that might be so it all starts being
appreciative of everything you have
right now all the little things there's
so much that you can be grateful for you
can be grateful for this incredible
vessel that you have this vehicle called
your body which gives you the gift of
life and the fact that your heart beats
a hundred thousand times a day we
thought you would haven't even do
anything or think about it never takes
time off never takes a vacation it's
always there for you you can be grateful
for your eyes that allow you to see your
ears that allow you to hear your
tastebuds your arms your legs there's
people in the world that don't have what
you have available to you there's people
in the world that are born without arms
and legs that are that don't have these
things so be grateful for them
appreciate them appreciate the things
around you that you didn't have to
invent or create or think of or take the
risk to create that you now are in a
position that you get a benefit from
either inexpensively or with a little
bit of money see if you can start with
being grateful and happy everything in
your life will enhance you know a lot of
people they think that you know when I
am successful
then I'm gonna be happy it's actually
the other way around
see successful people do not become
happy happy people become successful I'm
gonna say that again because that's
profound
successful people do not become happy
happy people become successful when
you're happy you're gonna attract
success and create success at a much
different level in your life when you're
happy you're gonna feel better about
yourself you're gonna feel more
motivated and inspired to take actions
that are necessary for you grow your
business and make more money when you're
happy you're gonna attract someone to
you in your life at a different level
it's not the other way around it's not
like I'm miserable and unhappy is my
life and when I get a relationship then
I'm gonna be happy you're not going to
attract anyone like that if you're
unhappy you're gonna attract someone
else who's unhappy if you're negative if
you're a complainer then you're gonna
attract someone else that is similar to
you but if you're happy first and you're
fulfilled then you're gonna attract
someone in a much different level so
that's why this is important this is why
you have to cultivate that happiness and
that gratitude within yourself look for
the good it's always there just got to
find it might be hard in some
circumstances I get that but you can
always find the good you can always find
the positivity in every situation a life
offers you and it's a challenge at times
but if you can train yourself to then
you're gonna be at a much loved
different level of of emotional
well-being enlightenment or whatever you
want to call it you're gonna have more
power in your life because you're gonna
be able to be happy no matter what the
circumstances are no matter what happens
in your life you're still gonna be happy
and you're still gonna be fulfilled
regardless you know so the complaints
complaint free world will Bowen check it
out again I'm gonna link to it after
this YouTube video is done below and
we'll do a blog post on this too but the
challenge that I want to invite you guys
to participate in if you're open to it
is a 21-day complaint free challenge and
basically what this challenge consists
of is for the next 21 days commit
yourself to not being
negative or complaining about anything
okay and it's not that you know you're
gonna be perfect on the next 21 days but
if you catch yourself complaining
immediately cut that off immediately cut
that off if you catch yourself being
negative gossiping rumor in judging
complaining about anything catch
yourself use a bracelet like what I have
here take it off develop the awareness
of it put it on the other wrist take an
elastic band give yourself you know a
shock for it and no longer identify with
that behavior as a part of who you are
and what you stand for because you're so
much more than that you deserve to be
happy
you deserve to have a great life you
deserve to you know be fulfilled in your
life
so bring develop that awareness for the
next 21 days and then immediately do the
opposite immediately look for the good
appreciate and change your expectation
to appreciation find something positive
about the situation or the environment
and by doing so you're gonna take your
power back you're gonna take on that
responsibility you're gonna be happier
as a result and I challenge each and
every one of you guys to do it for the
next 21 days just give it a try
and if your life doesn't become better
if you don't enhance your life as a
result of it you don't feel happier as a
result then at least you gave it a try
at least you knew you know going for it
whether or not it's going to be
successful for you or not but I can
almost promise you and guarantee you but
by doing that it will make you happier
it's gonna make you feel a lot better
but yourself in your life and you're
gonna attract people at a much different
level and they're gonna be more
fulfilled and especially on online
because I think online you know there's
no there's no everyone's anonymous and
so it's very easy just for you to be
negative even negative comment or
complain about this or that catch
yourself guys and and don't surround
yourself with that either because you
surround ourselves with that environment
that's what you're gonna become
you know a lot of people spend so much
time you know just from going through
negative comments online and the more
you get indulged in that you're going to
be reactive you're gonna get
sucked into it you know for me I don't I
don't really spend much time online to
be honest with you guys I spend a lot of
my time now in front of the camera and
doing certain things but in my business
filming creating content what not but I
try to limit myself especially when it
comes to comments or negativity like
that I find that I actually if I spend
you know my time going through this
negative comments or whatever it is
about this person or that person it's
like an hour will go by and I'm like man
what like it just drained me and then
also I feel worse about myself
afterwards I just get caught up and all
this negativity and just even reading it
and observing it it's not it's not
healthy for you either and what it does
is it promotes that behavior even more
it makes it more acceptable for you to
also complain and be negative also you
know it's almost like if you're you know
if you're surrounding yourself with ten
people and they're all gossiping and
complaining about things surround
yourself with that you're gonna become
that as well you're gonna you're gonna
find yourself adopting their thinking
their mentality so for me up I watched
YouTube videos and I you know spend a
bit of time on social media although not
as much as I used to I use it in a
positive way I watch the videos that I
want to watch that are useful for me
that can help me with my life that can
entertain me in some way and I don't
read the comments I don't I don't even
go there a lot of the times where I
might in some circumstances but when I
catch the negative stuff I just delete
it I just don't even notice that stuff
anymore
you know because it's it's not useful
and oftentimes the negative comments and
complaints speak more about that person
than anything because that's a
representation of how that person thinks
and and what their mindset and what
their mentality is you can tell these
people are suffering you can tell these
people are unhappy with themselves and
their lives to have this needy this
desire to complain about this or that or
try to bring other people down so I
don't even get caught up in that stuff
you know on my social media someone's
negative
I don't react I just remove them you
know they don't have a place for me in
my life I'm a big fan of what Jim Rowan
says which is you've got to stand guard
at the door of your mind because one
little negative thought
one little negative comments one little
negative whatever can create a belief in
yourself and it can create a limiting
belief that can affect you for many
years to come
without even you even being aware of it
you know oftentimes a lot of the
limiting beliefs that we all have these
these associations that we have you know
are maybe because when you're a kid and
maybe when you're a kid your parents or
someone or someone in school bullied you
and they said this or that and they said
that you're not good enough or whatever
it is or they didn't praise you or they
didn't you know they they look judged
you in some way and when you're a kid
you're so susceptible to everything that
share you go and you live your life and
you're 30 years old now and you still
feel like you're not enough because that
one little incident that happened 20
years ago so you got to stand guard at
the door of your mind you've got to
you've got to be protective of that man
like for me especially my personal life
I'm very selective about who I spend
time with who I surround myself with if
you're a negative person you're cut off
you're not allowed in my life I don't
want to be around you if you're a
complainer if you're a negative person I
can't be around you like it's just it's
gonna bring me down and it's gonna
affect my happiness and joy so you got
to cut people off in your life and you
know it's not doing it in a way where
you're better than that person I don't
feel that I'm better than anyone I love
everybody I want everyone to be happy
you know I try to inspire people and
influence people the best way that I can
online you know a lot of people receive
value from it some people don't that's
totally fine but you know I'm respectful
of that not everybody wants to take this
on and that's totally fine but if you're
somebody that wants more wants to be
more happy and wants to enhance your
life which I assume that you all do cuz
you're here and you follow me and you're
on this stream right now then take it on
as a challenge see what will happen
become a better person improve yourself
and whatever way that you can because
self improvement means that you're
always open to improving yourself and
I'm not perfect I do the best that I can
but I'm always looking to improve myself
in whatever way possible I'm taking on
this 21-day challenge for myself
as well I find my side only complain
much but I
want to take it to another level maybe I
can continue to grow and practice
never-ending improvement and I want to
invite you guys to take on the challenge
also so that's my little rant today and
what I want to talk about but for those
of you that want to stick around and ask
some questions I'm happy to answer some
of them for you right now we're
streaming a YouTube periscope Facebook
on different pages and so I appreciate
you guys taking your time today to you
know watch and consume this message and
hopefully you can benefit you if you've
enjoyed it make sure to hit the like
button or hit the thumbs up I appreciate
that and and leave a comment let me know
what you think so if you guys have
questions post the questions I've got
people I got might get laptop here for
people on YouTube
there's a bit of delay by the way on
YouTube where I think like when I speak
the delay is twenty or thirty seconds
awesome so I think a few people have
done done the challenge already awesome
awesome Michael says I'm finishing up
the 21-day challenge I wake up every day
at 4:30 a.m. hit the gym the next on my
list awesome happy to hear that how do
you deal with a negative family member
you know most families they have someone
who's negative and excuse me negative in
some way
you can't cut out family but you can
distance yourself from them you can love
them from a distance so excuse me
certain people my family that I love but
I just can't spend too much time around
them unfortunately because they're just
very negative they complain a lot so I
love them I still spend time with them
at certain events or family functions or
whatever it is but I just consciously
make sure that I won't spend too much
time with them I don't spend as much
time with them as maybe other family
members that I might have and you know
the challenging part is that if you live
with family that's very hard now dad is
very negative and destructive to you
because a lot of family households can
be very negative very abusive in some
regards and I think you know if you're
in that situation do the best that you
can to have a positive attitude with it
but also understand that it's very hard
for someone to overcome their
environment your environment is one of
those things that's very challenging to
overcome so it's always best to try to
eliminate yourself from that environment
as much as possible so if you're living
with people that are negative you got to
find a way that you can eventually move
out and not be around that environment I
mean if you're in a relationship with
someone and they're negative they're
abusive and they're complaining whatever
it is I mean the only way out is like
you got to get out of that relationship
no it's not it's not healthy for you
it's gonna affect you in so many
negative ways and so you got to really
do the best you can with it
there's certain family members that when
I am around them I try to direct
conversation in more positive ways I try
to direct things I try to interrupt
patterns there's a whole art to
communication with people of how you can
direct things by asking more positive
questions to get them to focus on things
that are good that are up are positive
and if you find yourself in a
circumstance where your wisdom when
they're being negative or complaining
just walk away you know exit yourself
from that situation and you know you
don't have to make a big deal out of it
but just remove yourself in that
situation because it's not gonna be
healthy for you you know I can't tell
you how many times have been at parties
or events even its back in school you
know you're hanging out with these kids
and stuff they're complaining and I'll
just I'll just leave I might rather be
alone than be in an environment that is
full of negativity and gossiping and
bullying and complaining or whatever
that is so I think you got to take that
the higher path even if you know you get
put down for it even more because
oftentimes that's what people will do
they'll try to attack you more for that
but you're still gonna take that high
road I feel comfortable with yourself
and doing so Karen deep says what
motivates you to get up and do what you
do every day
I myself have problems getting up in the
morning or even going to the gym well I
think one is I love what I do I'm
passionate about what I do I've aligned
my life with my purpose which I think
gives you incredible motivation and so
that's the first thing number two is I
can I trained and conditioned myself to
be happy I trained and conditioned
myself to be motivated I have rituals in
my life of every single morning where I
train myself to wake up with a smile on
my face to focus on what I'm grateful
for what I'm happy about my life to to
take care of my body and I reward myself
every step of the way I reward to myself
I give myself pleasure because whatever
it gets rewarded it gets repeated you
know every time you push yourself to go
to the gym you wake up early whatever it
is you've got to reward yourself for
that you got to give yourself pleasure
to reinforce that right whether that's a
pat on the back or whether it's
complimenting yourself and give yourself
recognition and praise and saying good
job to yourself
in doing so you're gonna be more likely
to repeat that pattern so I reward
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