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hey what's up life masters this is

Stefan James from project life mastery

today we're going to talk about failure

what do you do when you fail you've got

goals and dreams that you're pursuing

right now in your life and then sure

enough inevitably you make a mistake or

you experience a significant challenge

or you fail which is something by the

way that we're all going to go through

you know we're all gonna make mistakes

and all going to experience failures

that's totally normal and natural that

if you're pursuing and taking action if

you're in the game and you're not a

bystander on the bench and watching if

you're actually in the game you're gonna

fall down you're gonna make mistakes and

it's not that failure is bad really what

matters is what we do about it you know

how we pick ourselves back up and a wise

man once said you want to spend 10% of

your time focus on the problem and then

90% of your time energy and attention

focus on the solution and what most

people do when they fail when they make

a mistake they put 80 90 percent of

their time and their energy and their

focus on the problem on the failure they

exaggerate it they amplify it they feel

that they link so much pain to it

instead of spending most of their time

on the solution so let's focus on the

solution and to make sure that the

failures that you go through in life if

you're watching this right now you just

went through one or you got one common

which inevitably we will I want to give

you the strategy in the game plan of

what I do and what you can do right away

to make sure that your failure is an

asset and a gift and not a liability

okay to make sure that you're failing

forward and this failure is a stepping

stone towards creating the life and

achieving the goals that you want so the

first thing I want to give you the first

strategy if you will that if you went

through a failure or you're going

through around right now or you just got

one coming first thing is to get excited

take it excited now you might be

thinking what do you mean excited why

would I get excited about a failure well

the reason why you want to get excited

for it is because you want to link in

your mind that failure is not a bad

thing

failure can be a gift it really is an

opportunity for you to learn and for you

to grow and the fact that you did fail

is a good thing because it means that

you're doing something see I believe the

only failure in life is not doing

anything not even trying see all the

people that are spectators that are

bystanders that are extra in their own

movie those are the people

piñon that are failing those are the

people that aren't doing anything

they're not going for it they're not

taking any action the reason is because

they have a fear of failure and you've

got to be very careful about developing

that fear see what happens for most

people is when they experience failure

they link so much pain to it they make

it so significant in their life and in

their mind that because they link so

much pain to that event that happened

they link up in their brain why even go

for it why even pursue the next goal why

even dream why even take action in my

life if all it's going to lead to is

failure so they live their whole life

avoiding taking action they get to a

point of analysis paralysis they get to

learn helplessness where they believe

why even try why even go for it because

I've already been disappointed so many

times in my life that there's no point

even trying so therefore most people

they settle for a life of mediocrity

they said only have their goals and

dreams just fly by they'll watch other

people achieve and grow and create an

incredible lives but they stay stuck and

most often they resent those people they

get angry and jealous towards them and

envious because they broke through and

they didn't and their success other

people's success is a spotlight it's a

reflection shining back on them on their

missed opportunities in their failure so

you've got to be very careful about

linking pain to failure because all

that's gonna do is keep you stuck so you

got to get excited realize that failure

means that you're actually in the game

you're not on the bench you're in the

game you're on the court you're on the

field you're not an extra in the movie

you're the star of your movie and of

course the star of the show of the

sports team of the movie or whatever it

is yeah they're gonna you know fail and

make mistakes and everything but they're

also going to create the life they want

so you want to acknowledge yourself for

that the fact that you even went for it

the fact that you even take an action

and yeah you made a mistake you fail but

that's okay you're further ahead than

everyone else that's not doing anything

okay so acknowledge yourself Elyse for

that so that's number one get excited

number two is ask yourself why did you

fail why did he make this a mistake how

did this failure even happen in the

first place right because here's the

thing you've got to take full 100%

responsibility for your failure you got

to take full

responsibility for you got to take

ownership of it because as long as you

deflect and you lay blame to everyone

else that's outside of your control

you're never gonna have any power to

change your life or to achieve what you

want if you come up with the story and

say I failed because of the economy

because of the government because of

that bad customer that I had or because

this person was in a relationship with

you know or I feel because I had a

mentor they gave me the wrong advice or

I failed because the program didn't work

the book didn't work whatever it is as

long as you deflect responsibility you

have no power to change so instead you

got to take ownership you are

responsible for your life you are

responsible for what happens to you

you're responsible for the actions that

you take you know you're responsible for

putting yourself in that situation in

the first place you're responsible for

choosing that person to be in a

relationship with you're responsible for

putting the foods that you knew that

weren't the healthiest foods for you and

your body you're responsible for getting

into that business deal or you know

applying for that job or working in that

environment you're responsible for all

of it and by taking responsibility

really what that allows us to do is to

learn from it okay to actually identify

why did I feel because here's the big

mistake it's failure is not a bad thing

it's a great thing if you learn right

but here's the problem if you don't

learn from it if you're making mistakes

and you're repeating the same mistakes

again and again that's when you know

that's when it's a problem so we want to

make sure we I did find why did we fail

right so we point the finger at

ourselves we look ourselves in the

mirror why did I feel why what did I

what could it you know what could I have

done differently or what could have done

better you know maybe I could have

anticipated things a little bit better

maybe I could project it and thought and

plan things out a little bit more maybe

I should have done more due diligence

maybe I shoulda done more research maybe

I should have talked to a few other

people a few other referrals

maybe I sure if it created a better plan

maybe I should have found a mentor a

coach or someone that could guide me or

a course or a training program to help

learn from other people's failures so

that I didn't have to repeat them and go

through them okay so that now is

starting to turn this failure into a

gift you see how that's happening we're

reframing things we're extracting the

good from this failure from this

disappointment

so I want you to ask yourself now

questions here's the next piece ask

yourself questions to extract the good

the questions you want to ask yourself

anytime you feel or making mistakes is

number one what was good about this okay

what was good about this or what was

great now your first year mine's gonna

say on nothing you know it was horrible

and come up with all the negatives but I

wanted to actually find what's good

about it so that we have some balance

maybe what was good about this event is

you know what you learned along the way

you know you learned throughout this

experience it's gonna make you stronger

it's gonna make you emotionally stronger

and mentally stronger that if you can

get through this then you can get

through anything in your life every all

the other challenges and mistakes that

you make up on the way I'm gonna seem so

small compared to what you just went

through right or maybe it's a you know

is something that can lead you down a

new direction a new path in your life

that you never thought of before

right sometimes you know failures of my

life in the moment they're disappointing

and hard but when I look back they're

the greatest gifts of my life because

they made me better so what was great

about it ask yourself what can I learn

from this okay what can I learn from

this okay extract the lessons from it

ask herself what could I done

differently or what could I done better

if I were to do this all over again what

would I do differently or better how can

I utilize this or how can I use this to

my advantage how can this liability

become an asset how can this failure

this is disappointment become a gift in

my life and how can I change my

perception of it so that I can look at

it in a positive way as a stepping stone

towards creating the life that I want

okay so extract as much good as you can

from it okay and once you do you took

the good I mean this failure we can

leave it in the past we don't need to

continue focusing on it we got to focus

on the present and moving forward from

it okay so let's take the good from it

as much as that's available for you and

then let's move on and and adapt to move

in the direction of where you want to go

so asking questions is key analyzing the

situation maybe there's things you could

have done better or differently the next

piece is to get help get help you see

you can't be afraid to ask for help

because listen achieving

there are coals or whatever you want is

way too hard to do it on your own okay

we got to humble ourselves we're gonna

have a little bit of humility

we gotta understand that there's other

people out there that can help us that

can help us accelerate and help us avoid

the pain and the disappointment we can't

be inner ego we can't think that we know

all the answers and then we can just

figure it out why why not ask for help

why not get help from other people that

have been there and done that

I mean if they've been down the path

that you're on they've made mistakes

they've gone through the failures and

they've gone through it so that you

don't have to why reinvent the wheel I

mean it's one of the stupidest things

that we do but it's all ego it's all

being self-centered and egocentric so we

got to release that and ask for help

especially when you fail you definitely

got to humble yourself you know and that

failure and realizing that you did

things wrong you took responsibility for

it so who can help you maybe it's a

mentor maybe it's a coach maybe it's a

therapist right I mean people in

relationships or relationships

struggling but they refuse to go to a

therapist to get help they want to try

to figure it out on their own you can

understand that your best thinking is

what got you in this situation okay your

best thinking got you in that situation

but to get to where you want to go

you've got to upgrade your thinking you

got to get a different perspective that

you don't have right now okay so if you

keep doing what you've always done and

keep getting what you've always got

you've got to get help and get outside

of that so is there a mentors there

coach maybe it's friends you could reach

out to your friends and say you know

what this is the challenge that I'm

dealing with this is the failure that I

had what do you think can you give me

some advice can you give me I love

appreciate your perspective on it you

know so reach out to people for help

you'd be surprised sometimes one person

one new idea one new support system can

change everything for you okay sometimes

getting a coach or a mentor can set you

on the right path or show you what you

did wrong and then help you correct it

to make sure that you're doing the right

things

okay so always ask for help don't be shy

don't be hesitant of that if you reach

out someone's not want to give it just

reach out and find other people they're

willing to help you okay sometimes you

got to pay for the help you've got to

pay for the course the program but

that's okay okay that's okay it's going

to be worth it because you don't you

want to make sure that you solve your

problems you don't repeat the same ones

again and again okay so the next piece

is to change your approach and adapt

change your approach and adapt see all

failure really means is that you try

something and it didn't work and that's

ok all you can do is learn from it and

try something else

and if you try the next thing it doesn't

work what do you do you try something

else

and if you try that and it doesn't work

what do you do you try something else so

you just keep changing your approach and

every time you change your approach

you're you're learning from it and

you're making better decisions it's

helping you improve your decision-making

process ok so you're getting better and

better every single time and sure enough

you try many different things it is

going to lead to the right action and

the right path and you're gonna get it

and you're gonna get to where you want

to go ok you can't just keep doing the

same thing again and again like I said

keep your voice down keep getting what

you always got if you don't learn from

you just repeating the same mistakes

again and again the same actions you're

gonna continue to fail you're not gonna

get what you want you've got to always

be adapting and evolving and learning

from it ok so change your approach

create a new plan of action based on

your new understanding or maybe your new

the help that you receive that can that

can help make sure you get to where you

want to go ok

the next piece is to build strength from

this to make sure that the experience of

failure does not discourage you ok

because that's really the danger of

failure is that people let failure and

falling down discourage them from trying

again in the future see really what you

got to do when you go through a failure

is we got to get you strong again ok we

got to get you into a state of

confidence and certainty because when

you fail you lose some of that certainty

you lose some of that belief and that

confidence in yourself or in the goal in

the vision that you have you start to

doubt yourself you start to question and

think oh maybe this is not for me or

maybe I can't do this after all right

and you go backwards in your life and

then again you fall into the trap of

settling for less than you can be so

instead we got to get you strong and

gonna make sure that you have a ritual

in the morning ok I'm a morning ritual

guy every morning you put yourself at

level 10 okay you put yourself so that

you're in a bigger state you're in a

bigger you're bigger than any problem

that shows up for you or bigger than any

challenge or failure see if you're a

level 3 person you've got eleven seven

level seven problem the problem is gonna

consume you you got to be a level 10

person when you deal with the level 7

problem is a level-10 person you could

destroy and rip through that problem you

can rip through that challenge and get

through it

so really you got to have a ritual and a

process to build muscle mental emotional

spiritual muscle everyday now I'm big

into mourning rituals to do that I've

got a course and resources called

morning ritual mastery I'll link that

below for you or go to morning ritual

mastery calm okay morning ritual mastery

calm or click below but creating a

ritual like that to get strong and to

have that certainty and build that up

you're going to build a breakthrough

anything that shows up okay so we got to

make sure that you manage your emotions

your mindset and that we don't we don't

we don't create cracks in your

psychology and your mindset that's gonna

weaken you in the future

okay so we're going to make sure that

you have that right mindset from this

point forward and then the last piece is

to have faith okay you need a little bit

of faith see I had the belief that

everything happens for a reason and a

purpose and it serves us I'm not sure if

you have any spiritual beliefs but

tapping into faith which is really when

you trust when there's no evidence

around to support it you know every

every goal or dream that you have or

anyone has ever pursued is require a

little bit of faith you know even you

just watching this video right now

required a little bit of faith you know

you didn't know who I was maybe or

clicked on a thumbnail or a video and it

takes a little bit of faith to do that

and we've got to exercise our faith a

little bit more often to still trust

that things are gonna work out the way

we want and even though we went to a

failure a challenge in our life that

when we have a deeper belief in the

faith that maybe this is happening for a

reason that we can't understand quite

yet but it will serve me in the future

it will benefit me and I was meant to

maybe go through this you or maybe meant

to go through this to go through it

because of what you become my friends

gods delays are not God's denials just

because you failed and just because

there's delays it's not that you're

being denied by God it's not that you

can't have the success of what you want

but maybe God is challenging you a

little bit maybe the universe is

challenging a little bit to see what

you're really made of

to see if you really want it to see if

you're really committed and now one of

my favorite sayings is that God is not

as much interested in your convenience

is interested in your character and who

you become

because what you are is a gift from God

and what you become is a gift that you

give back to God now I'm not sure what

your beliefs are but for me that faith

that belief serves me in my life it

empowers me so much and how it keeps me

going strong in that but all hell is

breaking loose and I'm going through

hell I just keep going you know I just

keep going through it and I learned and

I totally believe have faith that this

is gonna lead to a more beautiful place

in my life that sometimes these failures

of what you go through forces you to

become more so that you have something

to give you know my failures my

challenges in my life became my greatest

gifts because every problem that I had I

overcame it and it gives me the ability

to serve and help you here on project

life mastery and what I do for my living

my mission in life so if I didn't go

through those I wouldn't have the

passion that I have and be the person

that I am to be able to help other

people go through what they're going

through you know sometimes when you

don't get what you want it's part of the

larger plan of life because sometimes

you not getting what you want

allows someone else to get what they

want you know so a lot of failure and

disappointment is like you obsessing

over yourself like you had an

expectation you wanted this you didn't

get it and you're you know so

self-centered and a lot of times this

focus just on you instead of realizing

you know I remember when I was single be

a great woman that I'd be attracted to

you're interested in and I failed it

didn't work out the way that I wanted to

with that person but I could just focus

on myself I didn't get what I want you

know I went to a breakup with someone I

loved and liked them a lot

it didn't work out but you know what

sometimes that's part of the larger plan

because by you not getting what you want

and being with that person then maybe it

led to that person being with a person

that really meant to be with or maybe it

allowed another guy or girl to be with

that person and have what they want

right it's the circle of life in that

way or maybe the gift of it is that it's

forcing you to become more and become

stronger and to maybe be a little bit

less focused on yourself and more focus

on humanity and serving and getting

outside of yourself it's finding the

good and the gift and having that faith

along the way guys that's really the

secret so listen I really wish you well

and I really wish that whatever I've

shared with you here today that there

was something that really resonated with

you that if you're going through a hard

time right now if you're going through

challenges or failure you can come back

to this video and be reminded of the

truth be reminded and maybe be guided a

little bit for me

to help support you in the right

direction cuz I listen when we fail we

make mistakes the mind can go crazy can

it you know it can focus on all these

negative things and make us feel bad and

really what I want is I want to be a

positive person in your life and it

support you and help you get back on

track when you go through those moments

in your life so maybe this video can

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